How to discipline a 9 year old tiny terror????

Question

My friend is a single mom with two kids, a 9 year old boy and a 7 year old girl. The girl is fine and is a real treat to be around. The 9 year old on the other hand, is disrespectful, talks back and doesn't listen. He has actually kicked his mother in the face when she was trying to get a remote control out of his hands. Moreover, when he gets a temper tantrum, he likes to throw things at the wall and stomp away. I have told this friend that yelling just doesn't work anymore and that she should use the belt on his butt. All I know is if she doesn't do anything about it now, he is going to turn out much worse when he grows up, and by then there will be nothing she can do!!!! Does anyone have any suggestions as to what to do with the tiny terrror?

Answer 1

I no that it is very hard to disipline kids even when they are so little, so i think you should tell your friend to ground him and dont let him watch tv for a certain amount of time. Or if he has any thing that he is always doing and enjoys it... like video games, tv, ect., you should take it away for a little while like a couple days or something.That is all I can really think of right now but I do not believe in spanking... only if that child has done something REALLY BAD! i hope i was helpful.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Good for you for mentioning whooping his butt! You'll probably get a LOT of thumbs down for that one.

I'll never for the life of me understand why people are so against spanking now, then don't know why their kids are so bad ??

SHEESH

Answer 4

I totally agree with you. He should get the belt.

Answer 5

First she needs to figure out why he is acting out. More than likely she will need to ask creative questions. He may feel lonesome since he is the only man in the house. A few ways I would deal with this is. First everytime that kid does something disrespectful. Take his stuff away even if it leads to no clothes and no sheets on his bed. Make him stay outside (wheather permitting) and do chores or make him play. He is still a kid. Get him involved in something that has a male figure and boys around, sports, boy scouts, something with the neighborhood. Make him volunteer at a nursing home so he can interact with older people. To me he has pent up anger about something. He needs to let it out and he will be more willing to tell someone that does not know your friend, that is why I suggested the nursing home thing. I feel sometimes you need to discipline a child with force to show dominence(sp?) but that should not be the only thing. Hope this helps Mander B.

Answer 6

His step dad needs to step up- just because there is a male figure, doesn't mean he is part of the boys life. See if the new man will talk with the boy, not in a threatening way but guy to guy-9 year olds can be amazing, and 9 year old boys are not always sweet and all-but they are always wonderful-so don't yell- talk and when talks listen to what he is saying, and let him know you are really listening to him. Then go from there.

Answer 7

did your friend just become single. The boy may be missing his dad. First thing that comes to mind is finding a male roll-model. Maybe get him into Karate so he can get some of his anger out and Karate teaches self discipline.