How to discpline 4 year old girl?

Question

Every time she does something wrong she wont do anything to fix it

If i tell her to say shes sorry ..she completely ignores it and walks away

If she drops something or throws things purposely i tell her to pick it up and she sometimes responds that she cant and/or walks away

It gets me so mad and i sometimes tempted to spank her and send her to her room ..

But if i do that my mother gets mad at me saying that she is just a baby

I am her sister btw ( 17)

I feel that my parents need to be more strict with her but they dont

She doesnt clean up after her self and when its time to eat yoou have to chase her around or put her in front of a TV or somthing because she will not sit still at a table and eat

I love her to death ..I just want her to be grow up with a good head on her shoulders

Any insight or suggestions is greatly appecreciated

The way they are raising my sister really gets me angry

Answer 1

I THINK UR PARENTS SHOULD MAKE HER MIND CAUSE THIS CAN MAKE A PROBLEM LATER EVEN IF SHE SHE ONLY 4 SHE NO RIGHT FROM WRONG BUT SEE THEY ARE LETTING HER GET AWAY WITH IT SO U CANT BE AMD AT HER IT JUST SEEMS LIKE ITS HER WORLD  

Answer 2

It's not up to you to discipline the child.  They raised you and how did you turn out?  If you try to discipline her it's just going to confuse her as to who she is really supposed to listen to.  Just love her and spoil her and let your parents do the disciplining.

Answer 3

Well I don't think it is really your purpose to step in and kinda raise your sister for your parents but maybe if you sit down and privately talk to your parents about it pretty much what you said here maybe they will understand you can ask your parents if you can step in but all little sisters are like that you know? well good luck!!!  

Answer 4

You have to start somewhere outside the 'doing things wrong' subject and build her respect for you.  You most likely will not have any luck re-training your parents, so put your effort into your sister.  Maybe she would eat at the table with you if you and she have a weekly dinner where she gets to set the table (use a table cloth and fold napkins, use place mats if you have some)  Let her help you make the food, even if it's just a sandwich, kids like it so much when they are involved doing the 'big people' stuff.  Make a weekly date with your sister to do a fun thing.  Go to the park, blow bubbles in the back yard, paint her finger and toe nails, give her a bubble bath, braid her hair, and so on.  Your sister will look forward to these special times and she will look up to you for providing her that time.  Once she has respect and admiration for you, she will be more likely to comply with your simple requests.  Be sure that the way you phrase statements or requests to her give her a chance to correct things quickly and give her quick praise when she does what you ask.  For example:  "Susie, it looks like your napkin fell on the floor!"  or "Oh! There is a napkin on the floor, is it yours Susie?"  This way of speaking to her gives her a way to "win" and build confidence by complying with your wants.  Best  of luck, it's hard to be almost grown and have a 4yr old sister :)

Answer 5

I don't know I don't have this problem, my 2 1/2yo son is well behaved. But IDK maybe boys are easier.  

Answer 6

okay, when she refuses to say sorry and walks away. Go after her pick her up and bring her back to the same spot and make her stand or sit there until she apologizes. As for the throwing things make her pick them up do not let her leave the room until she does. Physical punishment is not the way to go. As for you being annoyed with the way your parents are raising your sister your right she needs a little more discipline and she's not a baby shes 4 years old still a little girl but old enough to learn otherwise you'll have a spoiled brat on your hands.

Answer 7

You do not have the right to discpline your little sister whatsoever.

She sounds to me like a normal little kid. You SHOULD NEVER consider spanking her. That is child abuse especially considering she is not your child. This kind of worries me, if you become that angry that you feel the need to act out physically. Just let her be a child.

Talk to your parents. If that doesn't work just remember she is not your child. You are her sister, not her parent.

Answer 8

You have every right to supervise and discipline your little 4 year old sister. You are 17 years old. I don't think she will be confused, she needs to learn to take instructions from the elders of the home. Don't let her run all over you and do what she wants. If she does something wrong you correct her, then take her to your parents and tell your parents what happened as a reinforcement to the discipline.

She is only 4 years old...she needs to learn respect.. if you got some manners teach her...you are older sister so she will begin to look up to you as you both grow older..