How to ease yourself when you know your lover is cheating on you.?

Question

How to ease yourself when you know your lover is cheating on you.?

Answer 1

Chocolate, music, a good friend to talk to, maybe a glass of wine, a walk alone on the beach or in the woods to just cry and let it all out - tears are the best way to wash someone right out of your life. You'll feel so much better later!

(And crying works for both men & women! Men just don't like to admit it - so being alone helps! For some, hitting a punching bag or a pillow also helps relieve the anger & the hurt.)

Answer 2

Anyone

who stays in a relationship with such a person

is a "Fool"!!!

Answer 3

There would be something about packing up all his stuff, setting out on the porch, and then changing the locks that would be very soothing.

Answer 4

You leave, hon, unless you like being a door mat.  (And what really does "How to ease yourself" really mean.... I just answered it as if it said, "What does one do if you know your lover is cheating?"  If that isn't what this said, .... uh, no clue what you do.

Answer 5

Extramarital affairs would be hard on anyone, especially if you deeply care about the person - it sucks.

However, it would be smart to ask yourself a few questions before you do anything.

First, I would definitely advise that you seriously consider breaking the marriage off - though this may be a huge step and scary (and worse if you've been married a long time), the source of infidelity is in the other person, whether they are not happy or just cannot commit, and you need to remove yourself from them if you want to be happy in the long run (nothing worse than thinking it over constantly).

Don't reminisce about the good 'ol days - they came and went, this is the present and you have to deal with what is in front of you.

Definitely confront them about it. They will most likely apologize profusely but remember, if they were really sorry, they would not have done it in the first place. It is here where most people are like, 'Well they said they were sorry, they won't do it again.' DON'T FALL FOR THAT TRAP. Stay strong and just say that this is not going to work.

Before confronting them, be prepared to head somewhere else or to for them to head elsewhere because you do not want to stay around with them, it will only make you feel worse.

And most important, keep yourself distracted for a while - there is nothing worse than overthinking something when you have abundant free time (which you might for a while). Rent movies, go out and do something, read, watch TV, just keep occupied.

Unless you are cheating too, then all is fine ;)  <--- kidding :)

Answer 6

fix yourself, do something productive.

If my husband cheats on me, I dont think I can do like the answerers here is telling, to leave.

Instead ill think why my husband cheat on me. Maybe i did something to make him do that.

But because of that it will make me feel down, so i'll just do something to prove myself. maybe gym, or salon or career wise.

Its upto you. talk to your friends. Talk to your husband.

Answer 7

Keep busy, go dating and talk to friends and family.  Tough times ahead but you'll pull through.

Answer 8

Just pretend that u didn't care about this relationship, i know is hard, but i saw my ex boyfriend cheating on me, and when i saw him i said, ohh this is great!!... and i left, and it;s beeing 4 years since then, i change my number, change from that state, to another state, and the only number that he has is my sister's, and he still calling and asking for me... i left from that house crying without letting him see me... it was hard, really hard, but he was acting extrange in different ways, and he wasn't spending a lot of time with me, i was working that day, and i knew he was off that day... i had a cold during that time, and i took half of the day off, and that's when i found him! things happen for a reason... so if he or she wasn't the right person, then someone will be...  

Answer 9

Get rid of him unless you like getting hurt.

Answer 10

you move on and slam the door on this relationship.

ease into life  like it's the new exciting life you'll find if that's what yur wanting.

Answer 11

leave him/her OR torture him emotionally/fiancially and not physically.

Answer 12

That's easy: BREAK UP WITH HIM/HER:

http://www.bofads.com/stories/breakup2.h...