How to emotionally care for your teen daughter if she was in a serious car accident which killed her friend?

Question

ow to emotionally care for your teen daughter if she was in a serious car accident which killed her friend

(case scenario)

My 16 year old daughter was in a car accident where she was the driver and her best friend was the passenger well one night day were driving and it was raining and the car hydroplanned and hit a gaurdrail and tree and instantly killed the passenger which was her friend but left the driver my daughter with a broken leg and broken neck so how do help her when she comes home from the hospital when will it be time for her to come back to school will it be good for her to go back to school and when will it be good for me to buy her another car if anyone has answers to my questions let me kno and no the police said she wasnt at fault wet road conditions were the fault so ow should i deal with my daughter when she comes home will she be emotionally different

Answer 1

I can tel you from experience it will not be easy. First and most importantly would be find her a therapist that she can talk to about he feelings and guilt. Find someone that specializes in PTSD. She is going to have Flashbacks too. Don't FORCE her to talk about the accident with you. Some days she will some days she wont. I know what it is like to kill someone. It has almost been a year since my accident and its getting better but still HARD

Answer 2

She will probably be in a state of shock or denial for a while, you shouldn't ask her about it unless you two are really close, if she wants to talk about it she will come to you. Don't pretend it didn't happen either.

Be as comforting as possible and as life goes back to normal try to do as many things as you can for her that would be comforting to her. It will take her time, and she might be in self denial, or think its her fault and that she should be the one gone, and not her friend. after a while, you should get her a journal, if it gets back, she might need some couseling, just as someone to talk to that doesn't know anyone she knows.

Answer 3

Buy her another car??? !!!!

That is just not right.  This she has to earn back.

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Get her distracted in school programs and busy.  Don't let her wallow in her depression.

Good Luck...

Answer 4

As for another car.......not at this time...............

When someone you know is dealing with death, you may feel like you need to say something, like there’s some piece of advice or wisdom that will make everything better.

In reality, there isn’t anything you can say that will magically make your daughter stop hurting, but you CAN help by listening.

By giving your daughter a chance to let out her thoughts and feelings, you’re helping her move through the grieving process.

When you listen, keep an open mind and a closed mouth.

Don’t judge or offer opinions; just accept anything she has to say.

Answer 5

Tell her it's not her fault. Comfort her as much as possible. You don't want anything bad happening for the next few weeks