How to encourage my 8 mo pregnant friend whose USMC husband was deployed yesterday?

Question

My friend, Candace is pregnant with her first child and is due in 32 days. Her husband was deployed yesterday for his 2nd tour. She won't answer her phone for anyone. I know she's sad (understandably so). But I also don't want her to become depressed over this situation. It is what it is and stress is not good for her or for her baby. I'm going to give her a few days to herself, but after that, what can I do to help/encourage her through this?

Answer 1

I'd stop by her house (if she won't answer the phone) and try taking her out to lunch or to a movie or maybe you two could go shopping together? I think that would make her feel better. She probably needs a friend now but just doesn't know it yet. You'll make her feel much better. And if she won't answer the door, leave a couple good rented movies and some comfort food there by the door with a card or something letting her know you hope she feels better and she can always call you if she needs something. I hope this helps :)

Answer 2

honestly, being pregnant myself, i would just want to be alone. My hubby's in the coast guard and i'd rather have time to myself. When it is 12 days before her due date you should temp. move in and assist with whatever she needs. My husband just came back on friday and its so much nicer to have someone help me with the little things.  

Answer 3

honestly thats what happens being married to a guy in the military im a ex Army Wife and luckly my husband became 100% deployable then they gave him his discharge papers to get disability but he was set to leave this past April for another 15mths but all i can say is be her support system make sure you guys go out alot (shopping,eating) you know so it will keep her mind off the bad things cause i know thats what she's going to be thinking

Answer 4

the best thing is be there for her.  tell her that you care and if she needs anything to let you know.  your there to go through this with her.  i'm sorry to hear the news and i'll make sure to pray for her/baby and the safe return of her husband.

Answer 5

Show up at her house and take her out somewhere to do something nice for herself, like a spa day or just out to eat or a movie or something. If you can't afford that then rent some movies and bring over some candy and just offer to sit there and talk with her. I hope she is okay, I know that must be incredibly hard for her.

Answer 6

I have an 11 month old and my air force husband is leave for 5 months in a few weeks.  Someone told me that he needs my streagth.  It really hit home.  My husband needs my strangth and support to do what he needs to do for this country.  I would also suggest looking up military wife groups in the area, and go to them with her.  Good luck and it's great you want to be there for her.

Answer 7

She needs to know that she has your support no matter what. Not right now, but maybe you could get her to talk to her doctor about counseling or something. My husband isn't in the military, but I could imagine the pain she's going through. :)