How to find Birth Parents

Question

I have a friend who is looking for his birth mother. What i know is his name (not at birth, Date of birth, place of birth and SS number). What is the best way for me to help him find his birth mother. Unfortunately his adopted parents are no longer alive. Thank you!

Answer 1

This is too complicated for this amount of space.  If your friend is over the age of 18 he can begin the process.  First he should register with the ISRR, a reunion database.

Here's the link:

http://www.isrr.net/registration.shtml

Then he should file a waiver with the hospital/agency/county that he was born in that he would like contact if there is someone searching for him.

What state was he born in?

Also make sure to take notes.  And where ever he is registered make sure he keeps his contact information up to date.

Answer 2

A great answer from genzoli there, thumbs up for that one, deserves the ten.

Then again, if you have 49 bucks to spare, you could get access to this site for a whole year and browse billions of official records a whole year long, perfectly legally:

http://pinurl.com/birth_parents

That should make the search a lot shorter, more efficient and less costly from whatever point of view you look at it. And say good bye to the frustration of receiving the continual "sorry, not allowed to share this information with you" from officials, let alone dish out hundreds of dollars to receive copies of files that lead to dead ends...

Good luck with your search!

Answer 3

see if the hospital will give you that information.

Answer 4

Adoption is something that is very hard to crack open.  If his adopted parents are gone, perhaps in the stack of paperwork you will find a reference to either a lawyer or an adoption agency.  The first place to start would be sending them a letter.  Adoption rules vary by state, so depending on where the adoption took place, it might be wise to see what laws are on the books for that state and then petition the court to open the adoption since both adoptive parents are gone. This would give him access to at least names of parents.  The last thing, or something to do while you are working on the first two things, would be to post his information on the internet in every adoptive web site around.  The more information that is posted on the net the greater the chances are of hooking up with either a birth parent or a 1/2 sib.  When you do post information make sure you do NOT post full date of birth, or the SS#.  You want to make sure that his information is not used in identity theft and you want to keep some information back so you will be able to ID the true birth mother if she steps up.  I know it sounds crazy but there really are cruel people out there who would pose as the birth mother just to mess with your mind.

For the person who trashed the fact that this person was given up for adoption, remember that it was a choice of a single person who was not able to raise a child giving up that child so he could be raised by two loving parents.  Adoption is a wonderful blessing and a second chance for any child.

Best of luck

Genzoli

founder California Genealogy Club

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/california...