How to forget that your girlfriend had s*x with other guys.

Question

Another couple problem I guess :S

So I had been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years. We started arguing a lot but the real problem was the boredom, she had recently passed through hard times with a depression and helping her with all her problems kinda made me feel a little depressed in return meaning we were both kinda sad to see.

After some time she was getting all happy again but I kinda stayed depressed.

After some time she left me in a not so gentle way saying she loved another man and left me for him. She had s*x with him but they didn't last for over a couple weeks. I ignored her emails and did not talk to her for over six months. After some time i finaly started talking to her again.

She proved me that she changed a lot and that she still loved me and hopped that we could get back together, I gave her another chance. After 2 weeks of talking we were back together. Now the real problem.

I simply cannot get over the fact that she had s*x with 2 guys during the six months that we were not in couple. Everytime we are together I think about that and cant stop myself I get mad for nothing and its almost has if im looking for a way to argue with her. Can anyone help me? how can i forget this? I know I am the real problem here but I just cant forget all these things...

Answer 1

well me and my boyfriend have been together for a really long time, i'm fourteen by the way.

i'm actually quite experienced with this kind of thing being that my boyfriend gets really jealous of a lot of stuff and dwells on many things. it's going to be hard to get over that but try and talk to her about it, get her to prove to you that she really does love you.

the one thing you don't want to do is pester her about it so keep it cool when you do discuss it with her. if you end up pestering her it's only going to make her feel like **** so when she tells you she loves you i'm sure she means it, and if she apologizes for having s*x with the other guys, you need to believe that she's truly sorry.. trusst me

Answer 2

lf the idea that comes to mind is she is intimate with other men, change that vision to the two of you in bed together. Concentrate on your relationship with her and blur those image of the other two.

lt could work.

Answer 3

It is so understandable why it bothers you. If that was me i would be so bothered by that to the point i probably could not get back with the person, because i know i would not be able to drop it and we would just end up being miserable. It is really hard to forget something like that, but what i think the most important thing to do is to talk with her through it, like whenever you keep thinking of it, dont hold it in, dont start a random argument, just let her know how your feeling. Its a slow start to getting over it, in time things will get better, and knowing that she cares enough to stick with you through it should mean alot. Keep remembering that you two were not together during that time. Think of this, if you cant live without her stay with her and try your hardest to work it out, If you think you can get by without her then its not worth it! But no matter what this is the type of situation you have to try, if you need anymore help you could write me at [e-mail],  

Answer 4

take off your shoe and hit yourself in the head really hard as many times as you can

Answer 5

Try talking to her about it. It's going to eat you alive if it causes you that much pain. it's worth a shot, and it may help a lot.

And remember that what she did then is done and gone.

Answer 6

just try to imagine the look on your gf's face as she was being pleasured by those 2 dudes (who were probably way better in bed than you)  

Answer 7

s*x is s*x. Don't think of HER past, think of the BOTH of yours future. It doesn't matter what she did. As long as she's not doing it now.

It's a lot harder than it sounds, to just forget about it. But if you want your relationship to work it's kind of a must. Good luck.

Answer 8

have s*x with her until she says "you are better than all my other boyfriends" haha o ya

Answer 9

Sleep with the same guys. That'll show her.

Answer 10

This is why the movie Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind was cool. You WISH you could forget, but I'm sorry... it's just not possible.

Just try not to think about it! Focus on the future, not the past.

Answer 11

well i have been down this same road that you are going down and it is not easy at all but one thing that i did learn out of all this if you truly love this person you will forgive now i didn't say forget, the hard part is you have to remember without letting it show. the reason why i say don't forget is because that's to remind yourself not to ever fall that way again. i also advise you to talk to her, let her know how you feel and don't sugar coat it. let her know that what you are speaking is from the heart. now if u just cant let what happen in the pass stay there, maybe you should let it go with her 4 yourself. trust is gonna always be the issue here but allow her to love you and show u different.

Answer 12

become a scorpio

Answer 13

go with the flow and take all the loving you can get

Answer 14

Did she cheat on you while you were going out? If not then forgive and try to forget.  She did move on too fast almost as if you didn't matter to her at all.

Your relationship lost interest at the time and I don't think she rationalized the situation correctly. She was sorta desperate to find a thrill and realized that she did wrong, she jeopardized being with a man that truly wants to be with her. Two years is a long time of bonding to throw away...she just had to learn the hard way, and I think she will value you more this time around.

If you feel like she's worth it, forgive her..if not then move on.

Answer 15

dude you cant and you shouldn't but don't let it haunt you either its just part of life in the bottom line her ******* some one don't mean anything after all your back together right just chill

Answer 16

you dont forget this kind of stuffs

u also have s*x with other girls and tell ur gf about it

Answer 17

If you really love her, you will accept her wrong action. But this type of relationship will not last long. You will more depress when you with her. Give out this relationship, otherwise, once you marry her. You will more headache. Give out quickly and look for another green land.

Answer 18

just leave her

Answer 19

Have s*x with two girls right in front of her

Answer 20

You can forgive but you won't forget.

Answer 21

1. Make sure she didnt get any genital disease from them. Cuz then you might get it too, and that's just way beyond unfair.

#2. What kind of girlfriend has s*x with two guys right after a 2 year relationship?

#3. It's impossible to forget.

#4. You sure it won't happen again?

Answer 22

dump the ******

Answer 23

Take her as she is...

After all... you didn't love her for she's virgin or not...

Nor... you didn't love her for s*x...

Answer 24

forgive and forget and if all else fails be the best at s*x that she has ever had. Life is too short to worry about that. You will regret it if you don't let it go.

Answer 25

well, that is something that you either have to get over or break up over,  it is a trust issue, but you were broken up when she did it so it wasn't cheating.

Answer 26

Before you two met, chances are you had s*x with out people.  Are you resentful of those other people?  Probably not.  It's the fact that she was 'yours' and then she wasn't yours and now she is again.  You're hurt that she broke up with you and found it easy to sleep with someone else.  I understand that.  Anyone would feel that way.  BUT, you made the decision to get back together with her knowing she had been with guys while you were apart.  You either have to accept it or the relationship will not survive.  DO NOT throw it up to her, whatever you do.  It's in the past.  Leave it there.

Answer 27

sometimes you CANT get over it and that's what cause my ex and I to break up.. I wish you luck though