How to get 3 yr old boy to use bathroom without anyone telling him?

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I've tried using a cooking time every 30 minutes.

Asking if he needs to go like every hour.

I Always keep him in underwear even in public.

Sleeps in Pull up at night. wont go potty till i wake up!

I've tried watching potty videos.

Reading potty books.

He watches his older brother go potty.

I've tried keeping him naked.

I've tired spanking him!

I've tired just about everything i can think of.

I've tried even making clean hiself up this don't work either!

PLEASE EVERYONE HELP!!!!

I'M TRYING TO TRAIN A HARD HEADED BOY !!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

In the case of more than 40% children upto the age of around 3 years this problem remains.  First of all his psychological behaviour to this effect has to be properly identified.After taking any liquid, he should be persuaded politely to pass urine every 45 minutes in a toilet.  He should be motivated and encouraged to use toilet for the purpose. Though it is a tedious job, yet it needs to be persuaded, poilitely. After continued efforts, after 6-7 months, he will learn and understand to use toilet.

Answer 2

You are doing a great job. The important thing is to try only one thing at a time, and for a reasonable length of time, rather than trying loads of things all at once. If it's all getting a bit emotional, then you need to take a bit of a breather. And then.... Depending on your child...

1)Try the good old star chart, if he's able to understand that, and choose a reward he really wants to earn (needn't cost loads!)

2) Choose just ONE of your ideas above, or try building a regular reminder into your routine, like 'I'll just get you a drink - you go use the potty, and (before lunch) What would you like in your sandwich? Ok, I'll do that while you go potty.' (and so on) - a bit casual and relaxed, no big deal. Loads of praise when he goes and tries, even if he does nothing. Low key ('Oh dear, now we will have to wait longer for lunch/TV/going out') when he wets/soils.

3)I personally wouldn't bother with spanking or making him clear up, you don't want the whole business to became associated with unhappy things.

4) Try buying really smart superhero underwear - he may not want to get them wet!

5)You may not want to hear this last one. Put him in pull ups, ignore the whole business. Repair your ragged nerves and dented relationship with the whole d**n business. Try again in six months.

Most children do not go to school in diapers!

Good luck!

Answer 3

well how many hours does he hold it? every hour.... hm.... how about if he doesnt need to use the bathroom....... hes just a 3 year old..... if it still goes on like this then you need to check with a doctor.... because if you hold your pee for a long time...... he might get some sickness where it takes forever for your pee to come out!....

Answer 4

My nephew is pretty hard headed as well. I had him for a week not that long ago and my in laws were going through the same thing. I feel bad that you resorted to spanking. Remember you want him to feel comfortable enough with his own ability to use the toilet. So this is what I did & my nephew has only had a few accidents since he stayed over a little more than a month ago. My son was much easier to teach, thankfully.

Be patient. It's not about how many times you get him to the bathroom through the day but what happens when he's there. Hopefully your only expecting him to go #1 at this point. I started both my own son & nephew sitting down. You'll need a small foot stool so he can steady himself. I would only do this a few times a day for a couple of days as it seems scarring for the both of you at first (only cause it's a waiting game). Walk him through what you what him to do.

move stool in front of toilet

take off pants/underwear

get comfy on seat (for boys the farther back the better otherwise it could become a huge mess)

get down

put clothing back on

put stool up or move to sink to wash hands or flush

If he hesitates or refuses (which, at 1st he probably will) hold his had & guide him through,( if that doesn't work or the next time around) calmly wait him out after asking him to get the stool, take care of his clothes, etc, etc.

Each time he does what your asking make a HUGE to do about it even if you had a hard time getting him to do it to begin with. High 5's, hugs & kisses, Great jobs, the works...kids eat that up. ask that family members do the same.

If you don't have loads of time to spend with your child in the bathroom show him the steps twice a day(morn., night) planning to wait about 15 min. each time to get the job done and when he has an accident remind him how much more comfy he would be if he used the toilet your way. My harshest punishment during this is a time out, they can't help being afraid of this next step in life. *****Well, hopefully this wasn't too long winded & helps! GOOD LUCK!!!!*****

Answer 5

Boys are harder to train than girls. I would try using psychology you know boys want to be independent so you have to talk to him and tell him things like he's a little man and little men tell mommies when they have to go things like that but mostly you'll have to ask him every hour at first you'll continue to ask him but after while he'll begin to tell you.