How to get 8 month old adopted child use to 6 month old adopted child i got 4 days ago she is so jealous?

Question

she is so jealous of her new brother

Answer 1

Hmmm... I know my daughter was very possessive and jealous whenever I talked to another baby or held another baby at 13 months of age.

I am not sure how long she has been with you but she is experiencing the "dethroning" which is often felt by many older siblings when a new baby arrives.

Try to do things like bathing them together, feeding them together. Infants by nature are selfish and possessive creatures. They need to know their needs will be and another baby threatens that security. They certainly do not understand that Mom has enough love and nurturing for two.

She will come around in time. She needs to learn that you are still her mom and that you still love her and that he is you son and you love him too. With time she will see this. Unfortuantely, you will need to show some patience towards both of your children and give them the time they need to adjust. Remember too your daughter is younger than most children when a sibling enters the picture. Usually, they have you all to themselves for at least a year.  

It gets tough though when one is not sleeping through the night or at all. Make sure you are getting the rest you need. Call upon your husband to help out in this department. Unfortuantely, they will both want Mom but you need some rest too. Get him to step up and give you a  few hours to yourself every week.

Good luk and chin up. It will get easier when all of you have had time to adjust to one another.

Answer 2

let her play with him. it really works, include her in the process of diaper changing, feeding, rocking to sleep, etc.

Answer 3

The reaction is totally normal.  Time will calm things, but in the mean time make a special point of playing with the older sibling one on one.  This way the older child still feels your undevoted love, and doesnt feel second best.

Answer 4

Poor tyke didn't get to be the baby of the family for very long. Most babies have at least 9 months!

This jealousy will pass very soon. They will grow up more like twins, who are usually best friends. Try to include them both in lap time, cuddle time, story time. The new baby needs to bond, so you can't ignore him, but try to include the 8mo old as much as possible.

Answer 5

It's only been 4 days, quite a change in her life (and yours1). it may take weeks or months- give it more time for everyone to adjust, and in the meantime, try to find some one on one time with just her. BTW, I think i;'ts fabulous you adopted- I wish I could talk my hubby into it! CONGRATS on your new baby!