How to get closure after losing someone?

Question

My Boyfriend, who i love dearly found out at the weekend that his ex girlfriend had been in a serious accident which killed her.

He is understandably distraught, and i hate seeing him go through such pain. He is unable to go to her funeral, and he wants to be able to say good bye.

Does anyone have any suggestions for him to say good bye in his own special way?

thank you for your comments in advance.

zoey

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Answer 1

Maybe he could write her a letter, saying goodbye, and anything else he would have wanted to say to her but now won't have the chance.  

He could then burn the letter when he is ready.  It would all be totally private so he could write whatever he likes.

I'm sorry to hear about his exes death, and you sound like a great, supportive girlfriend.

Answer 2

the hard thing is that you thing is that he will feel like he's saying goodbye over and over at things that remind him of her, things that they did, places they went, and even her future.

You're such a great support for him, what he really needs is to know that you're cool talking about it. Most people think that the person grieving will bring up the topic, but they're really wanting the opposite. Ask if he's ok, don't be afraid to talk about her and laugh about good memories.

Just a warning, it will feel like he's starting to get over it in a couple of weeks, than it will probably hit him hard at the 3 month mark so make sure he's ok

Answer 3

you could both go to the place were they had their first date- say some words and put flowers. or, go to the scene and say some words.

I'm so sorry to hear it. I hope it all goes well for you both.

Shae

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