How to get kids to behave for babysitters?

Question

I have 3 children and I normally leave my 6 &8 year old alone with a babysitter on Friday night so that me, my husband and ocassionaly my 13 year old daughter can have a night away. My children behave very nicely for me and know exactly how they are expected to behave and they know that when they go outside those expectations there will be consequences.

I first used a service, I can't remember what it was called but they tried to match your kids to a sitter( based on behavior, activities that they like,etc) , that is impossible for my kids they are constantly changing. Well everytime after I would get home I would hear the same thing the kids were pretty good with ocasional minor problems but I realized something was up when a crying babysitter tried to tell me that. I got the truth out and found out they have been litle nightmares. I have been rewarding the the whole time because I have been receiving "good" reports.

Answer 1

i say 1 and 3 and then u tell them u seen everything they did and said and then show them how bad they were and tell them if they ever act like that again for any 1 they will have like no privlages

take away there favrot toy slowly as they misbehave for the baby sitter but not this time give them 1 more chance but try not to b to harsh plz dont spanke them that is kinda wrong u should try other ways but u are there mom and u noe what is best for them so do what u think is right !!!

Answer 2

I am a mom of 5 and also a home daycare provider. At 6 and 8 yrs old they understand why they are in trouble if punished the next day. I agree with some of the others .. use the same person. Consistency is best .. and you need someone who is very strong spoken but fun. And don't give the babysitter to many rules.. it is hard to do your job when you are trying to go by a list, giving a set bed time routine is fine but minute by minute time line is no fun for Anybody. As far as the babysitter telling you everything was fine, they are taught to not give negative reports.. and never in front of the children. The only time they are to complain is if someone gets hurt. Best of luck to you and your journey to find the perfect sitter..

Answer 3

You could get a babysitter that your kids have known for quite some time. Like a Family member. Thats what happened with my little brother. You could use rewards for good behavior, like tell them i they behave you'll take them to their favorite resturaunt or something, or buy them a new toy. That helped my little brother. Show them footage of their behavior, and tell them if they do it again you'll woop them. My mom did that to me. She wooped me too, haha, but hey, it worked!

Answer 4

You need a sitter that isn't a pushover and you need the same sitter every time. When your kids have a different sitter every time you go out, they learn and they try new things on each one of them until they become nightmares. Up until now, they have gotten away with it. If you use a service, let them know you don't want a sitter who's a pushover--one who has and sets clear limits. Also, make sure the sitter knows she can call you with any little question and explain that in the past your children have tried to say they are allowed to do things they're not. When you're up front with your sitters and your children--ie what will happen if they do NOT behave, things are much easier. In the situation with the crying sitter, she's probably not coming back, and your kids should have to each write her a letter of apology, as well as lose a privilege because of the bad behavior. Give your sitter a routine for what the evening should be like so that she knows when they should start getting ready for bed, etc.

OMG, it's been six hours and your kids are six and eight--not two. The kids know exactly how they behaved last night, and it's not too late to dole out a punishment! They should not be allowed to go to the zoo, should have to write a letter of apology, and should have their nasty little mouths washed out with soap. Where did your children learn to spit and swear? That is unacceptable. What are they watching on tv?

You need to not only tell them you have a nanny cam, but let them watch themselves on it individually--one at a time and have them analyze their own behavior. You need to make them feel so horrible for their behavior that they're begging YOU to forgive them.

Answer 5

I feel terrible for your nannies.

Your kids are smart. They know that you wont let the babysitters hit 'em. I guess word got out about it!

Your babysitter is nothing but a pushover to them!

1) Severe punishment. Grounding + major spanking. Test them again in a week, 2 weeks, and a month. If they continue, spank them IMMEDIATELY after you get the report. (and make sure no one is lying)

2) obviously the kids brought a babysitter to tears. that's hard to do, especially with a professional service. You don't have mail - You've got brats! (2-faced ones, to be more specific)

3)Put them in day care. Those people don't care about kids and your kids will realize they aren't the center of the universe any longer. Pepper on the macaroni? Too bad!! Make them do chores, too - especially that eldest one (13) you talked about. You've got to get to the root of the problem. Tell the kids (and the babysitter) they can use spanking now. And be firm when you tell your kids that this is the new rule and it will be enforced. Most babysitters (like most people) are responsible, and if any abuse occurs, the babysitter gets fired immediately. Keep that teddy cam going, that's always a good handy tool for moderation.

Good luck to you.

Answer 6

tell the babysitters what you do that works so they can do the same discipline. Make sure you have set activities for them to do so they don't get bored and act up. Have set consequences for them not behaving for the babysitter and when you use a babysitter, explain to her that you have had issues in the past with them not behaving with a sitter and that it is important that she tell you if they acted up so you can correct the problem. It is sometimes hard for babysitters to tell because they feel bad and don't want the parents to think they couldn't handle it.

EDIT: That is precisely what is wrong with spanking. Spanking causes kids to behave out of fear of spanking and so when the threat of spanking is not present they will act out. Spanking doesn't teach kids to behave for the right reasons. Since other people can't spank your kids they act up knowing they won't be spanked.

You should use consequences that others can use as well. Consequences that TEACH a lesson such as making them write apology notes to the sitter saying what they did wrong, why it was wrong and what they should do next time intead. You should take privilages away, make them have an earlier bedtime. When you spank, your child views you as the one in control. You have to teach them that THEY are in control. They control whether consequences are positive or negitive by choosing the correct behavior. You need to help them develop self discipline where they make good choices even when you are not there ready to spank them.

Answer 7

Tell the kids you know how they acted with the nanny. Punish them for the behavior. And let them know if the nanny tells you that they did not follow your schedule that they will be punished when you get home. I have two kids 11 and 9 and i tell them that the way they act when we are not around is a reflection of us(my husband and I) and if they act bad it makes us look like bad parents. So if I find out that they acted up that they would be grounded. Which usually means they cant go anywhere and no one can come to our house for at least two weeks. That hurts them because they always have Friends over our house and they are always going places with there Friends. GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Frequent and severe beatings. LOL

Answer 9

tell them that if they dont behave they will be grounded no friends no phone no tv no toys make em just sit there the next day until they realize to be good or ask them what they like to do for quiet activities and tell the babysitter to do that and if they are enjoying it they tend to behave