How to get more confidence when in public places?

Question

ok well i have low-self esteem and not alot of confidence but it is boosted alot when with friends.

my friends are busy and i need to go out because i need to buy some things before school starts, i even had an audition today but couldnt go because i was scared to go alone.

whenever i want to go out i ask a number of friends and if no-one can go i think their just saying that and i make them feel bad by saying oh i cant go now which isnt fair on them really because i made the plans before them.

when im in crowds like at markets or in shops i feel trapped and like a butterfly in your stomach kinda feeling well like alot of nervousness and i can go weak in my arms and legs and its feels like i cant breathe kinda thing this also happens whenevr i go into primark. (dont ask lol). then at resturants or shops or whatever i have a hard time talking to the poeple that work there, i cant look at them or even talk to them and have to get my friends or parents to do it for me and they get pissed off all the time about it. if i need to call someone about something i want like info i muck up my speech and i have to write everything down that i want to say and keep asking my friends for reasurance that what im going to say is ok but when they ask questions i wasnt prepared for i stop and takes me ages to try and think of something to say.

i dont like taking my dog for a walk because i think people or watching me or going to say stuff about me.

then theres planes and cinemas i always have to be in te middle of people i know and never the end s of where my mates are sitting because i fear some stranger is going to sit next to me, and when i do i go all weak again and very nervous and i cant move because i just freak and i get overwhelmed by it all and feel like im gunna cry and i hate it so much, sometimes it feels like i cant breathe.

im also a paranoid person. how can i get pver all this and get more confidence to be able to do things on my own and not be so dependent?

im 16yrs old

Answer 1

your 16..im just a year older then you and never felt like that..maybe just sometimes i dont like talking to people i dont know..and i dont like sitting at the end in cinemas but thats just cause im at the end and you miss out if your friends are talking and stuff.

i think you need proffessional help with your confidence.

i mean i could give advice but i dont think it will help.

but theses things helped me alot, like before i used to think about what people thought of me even if i didnt know them..but now i think..

heck..i do what i want! ill never see them again if they think im silly ect. i dont care..thats me. I always think well whats to be afraid there just a person, they dont know you ethier.

if you meet someone new like a friend of a friend..think of it more as making a friend and not a stranger..making friends can be fun and good for your confidence with meeting new people, ask them questions.

it helped me!

plus, if you want to walk your dog then you should be able to. why would they watch you or say stuff? they are probably too busy getting on with their life to notice a girl walking her dog..thats not meant to sound horrible by the way.

and if they say stuff..thats their problem not yours! they have issues with themselves not you..

good luck!

..x..

Answer 2

Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder, often precipitated by the fear of having a panic attack in a setting from which there is no easy means of escape. As a result, sufferers of agoraphobia may avoid public and/or unfamiliar places. In severe cases, the sufferer may become confined to their home, experiencing difficulty traveling from this "safe place."

The word "agoraphobia" is an English adaptation of the Greek words agora (αγορά) and phobos (φόβος), and literally translates to "a fear of the marketplace."

Agoraphobia is a condition where the sufferer becomes anxious in environments that are unfamiliar or where he or she perceives that they have little control. Triggers for this anxiety may include crowds, wide open spaces or traveling, even short distances. This anxiety is often compounded by a fear of social embarrassment, as the agoraphobic fears the onset of a panic attack and appearing distraught in public.[1]

Agoraphobics may experience panic attacks in situations where they feel trapped, insecure, out of control or too far from their personal comfort zone. In severe cases, an agoraphobic may be confined to his or her home. [2] Many people with agoraphobia are comfortable seeing visitors in a defined space they feel they can control. Such people may live for years without leaving their homes, while happily seeing visitors in and working from their personal safety zones. If the agoraphobic leaves his or her safety zone, they may experience a panic attack.

[edit] Prevalence

The one-year prevalence of agoraphobia in the United States is about 5 percent.[3] According to the National Institute of Mental Health, approximately 3.2 million Americans ages 18-54 have agoraphobia at any given time. About one third of people with panic disorder progress to develop agoraphobia.[4]

[edit] Gender differences

Agoraphobia occurs about twice as commonly among women as it does in men.[5] The gender difference may be attributable to social-cultural factors that encourage, or permit, the greater expression of avoidant coping strategies by women. Other theories include the ideas that women are more likely to seek help and therefore be diagnosed, that men are more likely to abuse alcohol as a reaction to anxiety and be diagnosed as an alcoholic, and that traditional female s*x roles prescribe women to react to anxiety by engaging in dependent and helpless behaviors.[6] Research results have not yet produced a single clear explanation as to the gender difference in agoraphobia.

[edit] Causes and contributing factors

There are a number of factors that contribute to the development of agoraphobia. These factors include:[7][unreliable source?]

Family factors:

Having an anxious parent role model.

Being abused as a child.

Having an overly critical parent.

Personality factors:

High need for approval.

High need for control.

Oversensitivity to emotional stimuli.

Biological factors:

Oversensitivity to hormone changes.

Oversensitivity to physical stimuli.

High amounts of sodium lactate in the bloodstream.

Research has uncovered a linkage between agoraphobia and difficulties with spatial orientation.[8] [9]Normal individuals are able to maintain balance by combining information from their vestibular system, their visual system and their proprioceptive sense. A disproportionate number of agoraphobics have weak vestibular function and consequently rely more on visual or tactile signals. They may become disoriented when visual cues are sparse as in wide open spaces or overwhelming as in crowds. Likewise, they may be confused by sloping or irregular surfaces.[10] Compared to controls, in virtual reality studies, agoraphobics on average show impaired processing of changing audiovisual data. [11]

Answer 3

Everyone suffers from a shortage of confidence, but some are just better actors than others.  

Answer 4

You show symptoms of social anxiety disorder.I believe that it is caused by an omega 3 deficiency.

Generalized social anxiety disorder typically involves a persistent, intense, and chronic fear of being judged by others and of potentially being embarrassed or humiliated by one's own actions

Physical symptoms often accompanying social anxiety disorder include excessive blushing, sweating (hyperhidrosis), trembling, palpitations, nausea, and stammering. Panic attacks may also occur under intense fear and discomfort

Start the omega 3 diet.I have researched omega 3 acids for 2 years and performed a very successful experiment on myself and few of my volunteer friends.Few months of the omega 3 diet i cured my stress[and/or depression] problems permanently and significantly raised my intelligence,improved memory,sight,reflexes[and many other known and unknown benefits] and without any drugs or supplements in the form of pills.

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Take two table spoons of grinded flaxseed[rich with omega 3]a day[with a glass of water] and in a few months you will start to notice significant improvement in your mental health[you will become more psychologically stable,among other things].Use a coffee grinder.Whole seeds cannot be digested by the hydrochloric acid in our stomach only grinded seeds.A fact and not a assumption.You have nothing to loose only gain by it.There are many articles on the internet about the omega 3.2 years ago before i started the diet i did not feel so stable or happy how i feel today.

No they will not but the omega 3 fatty acids will.

Depression is caused by the lack of serotonin in your brain which is caused by the lack of omega 3 fatty acids in your brain.A deficiency that most of the humans on this planet have.

Start the omega 3 diet.I have researched omega 3 acids for 2 years and performed a very successful experiment on myself and few of my volunteer friends.Few months of the omega 3 diet i cured my stress[and/or depression] problems permanently and significantly raised my intelligence,improved memory,sight,reflexes[and many other known and unknown benefits]and without any drugs or supplements in the form of pills.

http://www.naturalnews.com/021119.html

Take two table spoons of grinded flaxseed[rich with omega 3 and cheap]a day[with a glass of water] and in a few months you will start to notice significant improvement in your mental health[you will become more psychologically stable,among other things].Use a coffee grinder.Whole seeds cannot be digested by the hydrochloric acid in our stomach only grinded seeds.A fact and not a assumption.You have nothing to loose only gain by it.There are many articles on the internet about the omega 3.2 years ago before i started the diet i did not feel so stable or happy how i feel today.

Flax is the best source of ALA omega 3 fatty acid which our body converts to more important fatty acids called DHA and EPA.For the efficient conversion to take place,foods containing a large amount of the following nutrients must be consumed along with the flaxseed:C,B3,B6 [vitamins],zink and Magnesium [minerals].I recommend 3 table spoons of flax with 100 grams[or more if to your liking] of almonds and/or 250g of green peas,1 kiwi every day.[do not take more then 3 table spoons of flax because large amounts can cause intestinal gases which can cause abdominal pain and/or constipation.If three spoons causes abdominal discomfort lower the dosage to 2 table spoons of grinded flax and elevate it to 3 table spoons after your body adapts to high fiber content].The flaxseed itself is not important.The omega 3 that are inside them are.

The information in the following link should provide you with the nutritional facts of most if not all known fruits and

vegetables:http://www.nutritiondata.com

Answer 5

A straight face will help,don't be sweety with the public at least with those that you don't know,they will judge you as a powerfull caracter.

By time ,you will forget about anxiety

Answer 6

Your soooo young its normal but try involving yourself in group activities

Answer 7

talk to your doctor or school guidance counselor, and see if they can help.