How to get my dad's girlfriend to stop lying ? HELP ! ?

Question

I knew my dad had a new gf pretty soon after my mom died about 4 yrs ago & I was glad for him & even told him that's good because most ppl need someone.That wasn't enough it seems.She came trotting over to my house uninvited to intro herself so I was nice & asked her in & offered her coffee & sandwich- we talked an hour or so.

Later my son & I stopped by her house to get a key from my dad but I didn't go in I waited outside.But when he came to the car he told me that Patricia had said "Your mom HATES me!" (like she was proud of it or something!

I don't like being lied about for one thing & I definitely don't like being called a HATER so I was offended & unable to figure out what I had done so terrible to merit this!

I let it go a few months then decided to write an email asking her to explain which she ignored so I resent it + added my email friends onto it too!

It's still ignored! I told her to fwd a copy of it to my step-sis & one of my cousins who both somewhat befriended her-but i doubt that she mustered up to that because they both then would know!

She was a Navy wife yet I had to explain to her what it is for me "the lighthouse" being gone against like she did as "the battleship" !

-- i treated her with as much kindness as I knew how to under the circumstanses yet she tried to diminish me in my sons eyes!

My dad said he wasn't going to marry her & told her so & now I wonder if he also caught her in lies! It was none of my bussiness to begin with & I wish she had never rushed over here - we would have met eventually at dinners & so on but now I just choose to stay far far far away ! He's 80 & she's like 65!

HELP !

Answer 1

It come down to being jealous of you, she want control and she figured you would be a push over, but to her surprise you turn out to be competition. Now she can not manipulate anything because you are not so easily fooled. Now your dad is an elderly gentleman and needs the care of his children not of another woman.... I bet your a nice looking and very independent woman you can handle most situations on your own even when your husband made you look inferior, you stood your ground. So this women don't worry about it she will soon be out of the picture....

Answer 2

Just be glad that you and your father got rid of that lieing b****! There's not much more you can do if she chooses not respond to your emails then let it be! Karma is a b**** and it came back for her because your dad probably sees the bad in her and chose not to marry her!