How to get my daughter to fight back?

Question

My 9 year old daughter Destiney to fight back lil girls at her school take her stuff she look at them.She told my other daughter Deysha she told me.I told her if someone take your stuff you go and take there stuff and do a at the same time trade.She still wont listen and she will fight if you touch any of her clothes,shoes,but wont fight for other stuff.I try to get my 12 year old son DeAndre to talk to her.She does'nt listen.What should I do?

Answer 1

call the other kids parent so those kids will learn not to steal

Answer 2

Seriously, why would you want to make your child fight?  My first suggestion is to get an education yourself and stop being so ghetto.  Second, I would teach her to stand up for herself and act responsibly.  Third, I would go to school and talk to the principal about the fact that your child is being bullied.  What you are asking her to do is only perpetuating a chain of violent behavior that will most likely carry into her adult life as it obviously has in yours.  Maybe your daughter doesn't want to physically hurt someone because she knows it's wrong!  You might want to actally ask and listen to her answers about what is going on and why she won't stand up for herself.

Answer 3

Some kids just aren't aggresive.  If it is not in her, she won't.  She is still young enough you can call the school and talk to them about it.  Quit trying to force her to be "tough" it will only make her feel inadequate.  Don't send her to school with stuff kids might take.  It doesn't need to be there anyway.

Answer 4

Fighting back could get her into trouble at school.  I would not suggest that.  I would talk to her teacher about this problem if its happening at school!!!  The teacher can talk to the other childs parents as well.

Answer 5

Your daughter does need to be able to stand up for herself I agree.  Getting walked over and just being a pushover in general is not healthy.  I think you should speak to the teacher at school and get them and the other parents involved and then speak to your daughter about self esteem and self worth.

Answer 6

why would yo want her to be mean like the other girls?

Answer 7

Do you speak to your kids this way? You have horrible grammar. Anyway, if this is happening at school tell the teacher/principal. If this is happening outside of school then you're not watching your kids well enough.

Answer 8

I would suggest putting her into a martial arts class to help her gain some self confidence.  They are taught not to use these techniques unless it's an emergency but it does give them the self confidence to stand up for themselves and feel as though they can protect themselves more.  It worked with my daughter and she's only 5!

Answer 9

It sounds like you are bullying your child to be someone she's not. No wonder she is scared to stand up for herself at school.

Your advice is not good either-- fighting back and stealing another child's things will only get her in trouble too.

Best make a meeting with the teacher and try to find the source of the problem with the other girls.

Encourage your child and love her. She is a smart kid, who trusts her own gut instead of bad advice.

good luck. Remember, your daughter's well being and self-esteem is far more important than shoes or clothes.

Answer 10

God, get your middle school degree before you decide to get pregnant.

Answer 11

i'm having trouble understanding what you've written ????

Answer 12

Let her be....she'll figure it out on her own.

Answer 13

Apparently you've never heard that two wrongs don't make a right?? And failed English class apparently too....

Your kids SHOULD NOT be taking things from other kids. If your daughter has issues with people stealing things from her, it should be reported to the school and the other kids parents to solve the problem like that.