How to get my daughter to stop wetting herself?

Question

how do i get my seven year old girl to stop wetting herself? its not bedwetting its while she is fully awake she tells me sometimes that she "cant hold it" I think its a lie but sometimes i see the sincerity in her little face, i have taken her to THREE doctors to no avail, they tell me she is fine i have even thought about buying her pull-ups but i think she will revert back to being a baby OR she might think its okay to wet them because its is a pull -up and its disposable.... i really need help or some advice !!!!

Answer 1

My daughter is 9. She forgets to go to the bathroom or doesn't realize she has to go until it is almost too late or too late. We just make sure she has extra clothes wherever we go. She has had this problem since she was potty trained, but it is a lot let frequent now - maybe once every other month. She has never wet the bed.

I wouldn't buy her pull ups. When she has accidents tell her it's okay and just remind her to go to the bathroom as soon as she thinks she needs to go instead of waiting. Ask her throughout the day if she has to go or just tell her to go to the bathroom and try even if she doesn't think she has to.

Answer 2

take her to counseling if medically her bladder is functioning normally then it has to do with her physique

Answer 3

Does she fully wet herself - like empty her whole bladder? Or is it just a little bit of pee?  My 7 year old daughter just holds it and holds it because she is too busy or having too much fun to take the time to go to the bathroom.  Then she cant hold it anymore and will let a little pee go and wet herself a little, and its like she doesnt care. She just keeps doing whatever she is doing with wet pants!

This is how I have attempted to combat the problem.  I can tell by her body language if she has to go.  I tell her she has to go use the bathroom, or else I will make her stop doing whatever she is doing that is so interesting to her.  Or, if she asks me for something, I say "only if you go pee first".  Then, of course she says "But I dont have to pee!".  Then I say "You are not getting XYZ until you go pee".  Then of course, she goes and pees.

Good luck!

Answer 4

You took her to 3 doctors.... were they pediatric urologists? IF not I suggest you start there.

Then if nothing comes of it... go back to what you do with a 3 year old learning to potty on their own... Remind them once an hour to go potty until she learns to go on her own.

Answer 5

no have liquids after 6pm,just sips of water.Before she goes to bed make her go to the bathroom.You may have to get up during the night and take her to the bathroom.She will then start getting up going on her own.Make sure she goes as soon as she gets up.

Answer 6

She's telling you the truth. There is some reason why she doesn't feel comfortable going to the bathroom or telling someone that she has to go. I know that in sixth grade, I had a problem and it was because I was being bullied by two mean girls in my class. If you get the pull-ups, she won't revert and she won't think it's okay. But she will be spared the embarrassment she's currently feeling everytime she has an accident.

Answer 7

When something like this is happening there IS a problem.

A urologist should be seen, also another avenue is has she been s*x/assaulted by someone?  I will pray for you to hear your intuition on this as  a mother. Punishment is certainly NOT the way to go.  AND BELIEVE her when she says she cannot hold. Not believing your child will do more harm to her mind.

My son could Not GO to bathroom in school after a teacher made smart A__ comment  to him  the first time he used a urinal where every boy hangs out their private to Pee.  I think these urinals were designed for boys and men to see each others stuff.   I had to help my son  after I found out in 12th grade. it took 2 yrs. after graduation to help him go in different bathrooms at home in different stages  locked  door /closed, 2nd Unlocked  door/closed,  3rd. door open 4th I started standing close to the door that was opened he could not see me but knew I was there.   He is 26 now and really doing well in public bathrooms. Talk with her about wearing the slip/on kind and maybe it will help her get stronger and know an accident won't happen.  A jornal could be kept how and when this happens. I hope you NOW HAVE HOPE.MOMS are powerful people. Knowing about my sons dilema may give her courage to face her problem and may take care of itself.

God Bless as you seak an answer.  Peace!

Answer 8

tell the Dr's you want to see a specialist. I really don't think a 7 yr old would pee on herself on purpose. Believe your daughter. Dr's are always missing things like that.