How to get my parents to be reasonable with curfews...?

Question

Im 16....and i get good grades in school, I don't drink, don't smoke, or do anything like that, and my parents no that. My friends curfew is at around 12. Mine is 9-10. My parents wont budge or compromise with me at all. My friends want to go tee-peeing tonight and it gets dark at about 8:30, so we cant actually start tee-peeing until like 9-9:30. Last time I checked you can't tee-pee in 30 minutes. My parents are also fine with me going tee-peeing. Please give me some advice on how to talk to my parents about a later curfew. Please don't tell me to just keep with the rules for a while and they will trust you, becuase i have been sticking to the rules my whole life! thanks.

Answer 1

Be responsible in other aspects of your life. Like do well in school, don't fight with your parents, etc. Get them to trust you. If you have an early curfew it's the cause of two reasons. Either your parents are overprotective, which can't really be controlled by you, or you have done things in the past (perhaps related to drugs or other illegal activity, like the TPing you mentioned). Simply give your parents a reason to trust you.

Answer 2

Well the city has curfew limits which i believe for a 16year old is 10pm on school nights and 11 on weekends. Find out what your city curfew is and ask your parents to go by that. When you turn 17 it will go to 11 on school nights and 12 on weekends.  

Answer 3

Well, if your parents are fine with tee peeing say "Mom && Dad do you think tonight i can stay out an hour late?"  

Answer 4

um well the way i do it is, either just dont come home, (for like 3 hours past your curfew) but if you do this make sure your not planning to do anything special for a couple of days. Also you could be like hey mom can  pleaaaaaaaase stay out like 2 am? and she will be like no! and then just slowly decrease the time, so you end up with an extra hour and a half ish. Good Luck. (or if this doesnt work you could always tell them your sleeping over at a friends, and if your not allowed to acualy sleep over there come up with some excuse that they did something really bad, so you go sent home so they could be punished)

Answer 5

Mine were the same way, they just worry is all.  I'm pleased to tell you I'm now 29 years old and much better for all of their good parenting.  Just be patient.  Two years until college...

Answer 6

Huh?  Your parents have a strict curfew, but they think it's perfectly ok to go out and trash someone else's property with toilet paper?  That is seriously weird.

Personally, I think your friends' curfew is too lenient.  10:00 or 11:00 for a 16 year old is PLENTY of time.  

Answer 7

Well this question is tough to answer, depending on your parent's personalities.  When I was younger and first started driving and going out with my friends, my curfew was 11. I made sure to be home on time every night for a couple months, and then I started coming home 20-30 minutes late.  My parents didn't say anything about me being late, so I just started coming home around 12. After a while of being home by 12, I pushed my limits again and came home around 12:30.  Once again, they didn't say anything so I just changed my curfew to 1.  Note:This was over a period of about a year and a half.  It may take some time for your parents to realize that you're growing up, but as long as you ALWAYS tell them something about your night, they'll trust you more.  I'm a 19 year old college student now and I can pretty much do as I please, but my mom did let me know that she doesn't like me out past two, since the area we live in can be a little dangerous that late. Once again, this can all depend on your parents' personalities.

Answer 8

I wish I could give you the golden answer but I can't ! My parents were the same way! No matter what I did they never lifted my curfew! Unless it was for a school function then I had to be home at ten. What if you told your parent you wanted to stay out until 10:30 or 11:00 . Make it only 30 mins longer then your normal curfew that way it won't be too late for them. Or you could tell your parents you will check in with them every 30-45 mins(even if it means stopping by your house) Let them know everything you are doing. If all else falls try staying at somone elses house. Just don't do anything that will get you in trouble,and don't lie to them (that will only make them come down on your curfew)

I am sorry if I   couldn't help