How to get my self esteem higher?

Question

Nothing seems to work.

Answer 1

now this is kind of a tough question. i know that it might not seem to help but the reality of the situation is that the only person that can make you feel better about yourself is you. no one is gonna come along with these miracle answers that will just explain everything to you and give you the epiphany that you're looking for. i really have to ask you to trust me on this one because i used to spend years feeling the same way. the smartest thing that anyone ever told me is that once you're happy with yourself, others will see that and they will naturally be attracted to you. no one likes to be around someone who's always negative and doubting themselves. just realize that you are capable of doing so much and that you are worth having others care for you and spend time with you. if u do that, the world will pave a path to your front door. trust me. good luck

Answer 2

absolutely talk talk talk. the more vocal you are, the more likely your self esteem will rise because of all the confidence you'll get from being able to talk to anbody. try your hardest to start the conversations rather than be on the listening end. then also look at yourself and always remind yourself of the positive things about yourself and just work with that.  

Answer 3

Here are ten ways that may help to increase your self esteem:

1. Choose your company wisely. Avoid people who are overly or persistently negative or cynical and instead choose the company of those who have a positive and uplifting outlook.

2. Get clear about your goals. If you set goals and work steadily towards them, achieving small successes along the way to the larger ones, you will gain confidence and begin to feel a lot better about yourself.

3. Think and speak deliberately positively about yourself. When things are difficult it is easy to be hard on yourself and focus on your mistakes. However if you remind yourself of your strengths, achievements and importance to your family and friends you can lift your mood and increase your self esteem.

4. Learn to accept and use constructive criticism. You need to set boundaries about what sort of criticism you will be influenced by. If it is negative and an obvious attempt at attacking your self confidence, deflect it or ignore it. However, if the criticism is constructive you can learn from it and use it for feedback on your journey of personal growth. Helpful criticism will guide you in overcoming your weaknesses. As your weaknesses disappear and you become the person you want to be, your self esteem will soar.

5. Be resilient. If you fall down, be willing to get back up again and keep on going. Everyone fails at different times in their lives, it doesnt mean youre a failure. Decide to believe the best about yourself and your future. Be persistent and know success is in your future. If we retain our optimism and resilience we will be able to weather the most difficult of circumstances.

6. Dont compare yourself to other people. There will always be people who are more successful and less successful than you at any point in your life. If you compare your self to others, you make yourself vulnerable to feeling inferior. Instead, evaluate yourself on how far you have come in your own life not how far you feel you have to go. This approach to life will strengthen your self confidence and improve your overall self esteem.

7. Dont belittle yourself. If we dont quickly recover from the disappointments in our lives we can end up wallowing in a sense of failure. Our self respect, confidence and self esteem can be eroded to the point of non existence. Do your best to defeat negative thinking and deliberately strive to project a positive image. The attitude you show the world will affect how you are treated and how you are treated will impact how you feel about yourself. If you are treated with respect, you will feel more positive about yourself. So try to accept yourself and avoid the habit of self criticism.

8. Stand up to bullies. Bullies come in all shapes, sizes and social status. If you are dealing with bullying at any level, it is important to stand up to the bully. Practice being assertive rather than aggressive and teach people how you want to be treated. As people treat you with greater respect, your self esteem will improve.

9. Learn to relax with people. If you are shy or self conscious and find it difficult to break the ice with people you dont know, your self esteem has probably taken a battering. Our confidence in relating to other people has a big impact on how they treat us and how we feel about ourselves. Practice starting conversations with people who dont know well or at all. Listen to what they have to say and if the conversation gets bogged down, ask some questions. Show your interest through your body language and your responses. As you get used to talking to new people, your self esteem will improve and you will feel more confident in social situations.

10. To feel your best you need to look your best. If you are lounging around in creased, unfashionable clothing, you are not going to feel as good about yourself as if you are well dressed and well groomed. Remember, the impression we give other people will impact how we are treated by them and how we feel about ourselves. It is also important to look after your health, not only to look good, but to feel energized and positive about life. A healthy self esteem and a healthy body go hand in hand.

Regards,

Kevin

Answer 4

Self esteem comes from our perception about ourself. Changing your perception of yourself is a matter of making a conscious decsion to do it and following through. With a set of goals and daily affirmations to increase your level of self esteem you can raise the awarness of the changes you want to take place in your conscious and subconscious mind. Self esteem is real feeling that we create through a series of thoughts and actions over a period of time and just as you've created your current perceptions you can change them in the same manner by positively reprogramming yourself. You may need the help of a counselor or another mental health professional. Some self help books may give you more ideas how to unlock a more healthier sense of self. Hope this has helped in your quest to increase your self esteem.