How to get over a guy that cheated on me? Our break up didn't even affect me until I found out the reason...?

Question

My boyfriend and I dated for almost three months; not too long in the scheme of things but its considered to be pretty long based on the standards at our high school. It was his longest relationship ever, beating his previous 20 days. Everyone warned me against him because he was a "player" but he was so nice to me and never did anything bad to me our my friends so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we dated. Like, from every ones point of view our relationship was perfect. He wasn't a virgin and I was so he told me that he didn't want to pressure me into anything and that he would wait until I felt that I was ready. Even when he drunk texted my phone he was really sweet, telling me how amazing and beautiful that he thought I was and how much he loved me and how lucky he felt to be dating me. But Monday he was acting really weird when I was texting him and he finally asked me if I was ready to have s*x yet. When I said that I didn't think I was he told me that I should just try it and when I again refused he told me that he didn't want to be an @ss hole but that he wanted to take a break from a relationship. I thought that I would have been bumed at least but I actually didnt care. Like, any feelings that I had for him went out the window when he broke up with me about the lack of s*x. I'm 15 and while some girls are ready at this age, I clearly am not. Anyway, today I found out that the real reason why he broke up with me was because he woke up naked with his ex-girlfriend the night before. It really bothers me that he didn't even have the courage to admit what he did, I had to find out from his friend. It was only after I found out that he cheated that I actually felt really, really upset which I don't understand... at all. How is is that I didn't care at all before and suddenly care now. I actually feel pretty stupid, I know that I should have seen it coming. He's 16 (almost 17) and a known player that drinks alot. The only reason I didn't is because he made such a big deal about being loyal to me. So help me get over him... please?

Answer 1

There could be a lot of reasons that you feel bad now but it doesn't really matter why. There aren't really any ways to get over a guy except by meeting a new one or just let the feeling die over time.

Next time don't date known players especially the ones that are older than you.

The best thing you could do is confront him and then talk to some one about how you feel. I'm sure there are plenty of people willing to listen. I would do it.