How to get over being insecure as a man due to Feminist actions??

Question

Hi, I am a 24 yr old man. I am successful and good looking. However I cannot seem to feel secure with myself. Not because of my looks or job, but because I am a man. I am not trying to say I want to change sexes or anything!!All I am saying is that with the media and way modern women my age treat/act I cannot seem to trust them, want to ever settle down with all these girls that sleep with their gf's, and of course, I find it difficult to know what it is to be a man nowadays..If I am manly, many women my age shun me or find it threatening, etc.

I have issues with this, and I am not writing this because I am bored, I have been really been struggling with this for a while.

Also, I do find women attractive. So that rules out your g*y theories.

Thank you to everyone in advance, I really look forward to your help, and I feel so weird for this..(This is my only quetion)So far at least...

Answer 1

Don't see what feminism has to do with your insecurity. Try therapy.

Answer 2

just be yourself, maybe they do shun you for being manly but who cares? all this will have blown over soon........ stop watching tv and dismiss any anti male propaganda that you hear..

Answer 3

I'm a conservative women who wishes I was in the 50's when men respected women, held doors and protected us.  Now they yell curse words at us in traffic and leave mothers with their babies.

I'm going with this is the womens fault because of the women's "movement" to be the same as men (they sold it as equal because we are equal in God's eyes but we are FAR from the same).  We have different roles.

Women (with the invention of birth control) have acted like men are not important.  They need them for one less thing.  Well, we are finding out that is not true.  We do need men, they are our balance are rock in this world.  Our children need them also, look at today's children (I shutter at the future) this is all because the men are not there.

For me, I don't work I stay home with the kids.  I have plenty of time to work on looking nice, having the house spotless, the kids clean and sweet and just enough extra time to do whatever I want!  Beat that 40hr a week mothers who don't thing they need their husbands (you are all overweight the kids following step since you can only do take out, unhappy, kids in daycare, you still have to clean the entire house at the end of the day and you NEVER have time for you stuff.

Here is a thought.  Find a nice man and pamper him.  Stay home, find out what he wants and do it.  He will do the same, it's natural.  

I'm LOVING life with my husband as the head of the house.

Down with feminism.

Oh and you can find women who think like me at most conservative Catholic or Christian Churches....really interesting article below.

Take care and sorry this was so long.  Everyone is asleep still and I'm enjoying coffee:)

Answer 4

If you are insecure, it has to do with you, not feminism.  Everyone has insecurities.  We just have to learn to cope with them, not ask the rest of the world to accommodate them.  Learn who you are, then stand up for that person.  You'll feel better and people will respect you for it.

Answer 5

Always carry some kind of voice recorder device - your cell phone or something.

Answer 6

Your right it is them because the elite have brain washed them to think that way. Women's lib. was funded by the Rockefeller's, which are  elite who attends builderburg. They elitist's have stated that they want power, not money, they already have that. Women's lib. is just another tool for mind control and to get women to think a certain way. Women's lib. was funded for extra tax dollars(which is another way to control them)and for the destruction of the family unit. So there you go. These are facts and you can find them for yourself.

Answer 7

I’m not mad at you, and I’m not going to attack you. You seem like you’re very sincere in your question. I think a lot of the insecurities that men deal with now days have a lot to do with the pressure that other men put on them to be men. Trust me; most women could care less if you’re manly. The only thing we care about is how you treat us (for me personally) as a person and as a woman when you see me walking down the street, when we work in the same building or office, while we’re out at social gatherings, or if we’re in a serious relationship.

The problem isn’t with women, the problem is with you. Trying too hard impress those women who pretty much can have any and everything they want from a man based on their looks. Women like that (women who’re vain) won’t be able to look past the physical (because that’s all they’re attracted too), and see you for who you are. Because that’s not important to them. They (like many men) only care about what you can do for them (or too them) at that present moment in time. It’s funny to me how those are the type of women that men should steer clear of, but for some strange reason, those are the women men swarm too. And will do their damest to make it seem like this small group of women represent us all (Scratching my head).

Now, the women who can take the time to get too know a man for who he truly is, and what he has to offer (Mentally, spiritually, and in some cases physically), those are the women who can’t even get a man to take them out to dinner (I know because I used to be one of them). Because ‘we’ don’t fit that mold of American physical beauty, men look at us like we have one eye and go for the leaches. But it wasn’t until I started being more comfortable and acceptable of myself for who I am (and how god created me), that I started having luck with the fella’s. We (men and women) are our own worst critics. We look at ourselves and find imperfections that most people don’t even see unless we point them out. But I’m going off on a tangent here; let me get back on track. I wasn’t going to call you g*y, not all men or women who have troubles with the opposite s*x are homosexual, or ugly. It’s just that some people are not happy with themselves to begin with. And you can’t find someone to be happy with, if you’re not happy with you from the start. Another mistake you may be making is coming on too strong or too “macho”. Trying to prove to others that your heart and emotions can’t be penetrated, and you’re ruining any chances of finding a potential mate. Working to hard to prove that you’re “a man” can make and keep you being  Ã¢Â€ÂœA man alone”. We know you’re a man; we can look at you and see you don’t have breast or a v****a, we see the facial hair and muscles; you don’t have to put on the “I’m dominate” act while beating your chest. You’re not George of the Jungle and this sure as h**l is not your wild kingdom. Just relax, release, and be yourself (rubbing your earlobes saying WooooSaaa). Stop working on being manly, and start working on just being you. Letting go and allowing yourself the chance to laugh and enjoy life. Don’t be one of those old fool’s who reach their 40’s to 50’s with no wife wishing you would have just let nature take its course and allow yourself to love someone. We all get hurt in relationships at times, God knows I have. But no matter what one man does to me, I have grown to understand that not every man I come in contact with will do the same way he did. I have to leave my experiences and his actions where they currently are (in my past). Because I’ll never find future love living in past hurt. You live, you learn, and you move on. Next time you go out, forget about your money, forget about your job, don’t worry about what car you drive, and forget about your looks (I’m sure you’re a handsome man), and focus more on just meeting people, and letting your guard down so they can truly meet you. (Extending my hand as an offering) I’m Tashandra by the way, nice to meet you! :)

Answer 8

The more someone tries to bully you, the more you'll be rewarded by continuing to stand ground. -- Never is this more true than in the situation you're describing.

h**l, look at my question that was asked around the exact same time as yours , 'Why did women ever let themselves become disadvantaged'.  They stopped dead in there tracks for that one, because they have absolutely no answer.

Answer 9

I have a friend (she's a lot older than me) and she says the same thing about younger women today.  In fact, she tells me many of her girlfriend say the same.  She comes from a very large family and the stories I hear about how the young women act in marriages etc is sickening ($)   Many of her newphews/other younger men today refuse to get married.  

This leads to one conclusion; women are not perfect.  Therefore feminism is not perfect.  If it was, women would be robots and not humans.  

I'm 47 and smack dab in the middle of this.  With a BA degree in history, I've read a lot about isms and how they do anything to survive (yes even hurt innocent people.)  

Many women disagree and say that feminisim is only "catching up for what happened in the past and who cares if a few men/boys get hurt."

Perhaps this is MotherNatures way of coping with us pesky humans.

Answer 10

Franky I think you need to learn more about yourself.  Everyone is insecure about something.  You need to look inside yourself and find your own strength as a person.  Then you need to look at where you are meeting women.   There are alot of successful, well-adjusted, funny beautiful women out there looking for really great well-adjusted guys and if your not finding them you should change where you are looking!  Get out of the bars, off the Internet,  and start volunteering!  Go to local community events, to church,  the library, the local gym, get involved with local politics, or even go back to school!   When you quit looking and are leading a busy, productive privet life as well as professional one you will find that you quit worrying about being insecure and you will find that special lady that is out there waiting for you.  Have fun!  Best wishes.

Answer 11

Be yourself and who cares what others think. As long as your not hurting anyone it's all good!