How to get over this feeling?...

Question

Everyday im feeling depressed and all i feel like doing is running away from the life im living.im 20 and im also extremely paranoid about the way i look and its ruining my life..Im in so much debt that i cant pay back.i know i have screwed up but im trying everything i can to make my life better...any ideas?...

Answer 1

What's so wrong with going along with your feelings and simply running away?  Go for it.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Find out why you're depressed. Ask yourself what makes you unhappy. Also think back to when you were happy, relive that feeling, look through your eyes then, how do you feel? pick out the good things and take those feelings with you.

Answer 3

if u have a job then u r on the rite path   and try to go out and find some one    a good lookinf frend  or a girlfriend   it will help

Answer 4

Make a very honest list. Don't use the list purely to list the rubbish things in your life. Use it to do the nice or good things too. Even wee things, like remembering a nice compliment someone gave you, or good qualities you have.I  know this sounds really twee, but i find it helps me a lot when everything around me seems to be whirling round the toilet bowl. Give it a wee try. Please?  Good Luck. I hope this passes quickly for you.x

Answer 5

focus! get your life together. youre 20 thats really young! you feel depress becuase thats what you want to be. make everyday worth it. why are you paranoid the way you look? im sure theres nothign wrong with the way you look. if youre in debt, find  a quick job such as workf or a department store. fix your problems! theres plenty of solutions.

Answer 6

The best option for debt trouble is negotiating your debts with your credit companies to keep the payments from swallowing all of your income. Typically, you have to get a counseling agency to call on your behalf. If you try to work with them yourself, many of them will not cooperate with you because you are not enrolled in credit counseling. Try http://www.womenindebt.info. Good luck!

Answer 7

Break things down.  Stop focussing on the very big picture, and instead make it into problems of a size you CAN handle step by step.  Looking at the whole thing just makes you feel overwhlemed and unable to do anything about it, out of control and stuck..if you break it down into problems of a manageable size, then step by step you CAN improve your situation.

On the debt front consider speaking to the citizens advice bureau, or perhaps think about voluntary insolvency plans with debt management agencies.  They can help you to break a big problem down into manageable chunks.

As for how you look, well, is it YOU that is unhappy with it, or other people putting their opinion on to you?  If it is others, ignore them.  If it is you, then you can easily and cheaply change your look, by customising clothes using dylon, cheap ribbon, beads buttons etc., you can get hair dye in TJ Hughes for £1.30 or also in Asda/Tesco for around the same price.  You can braid ribbons in your hair or get a friend to cut it for you!  Raid car boots and charity shops, or set up a clothes swap with friends who  may be bored of their wardrobes too!

On the depression front, if you believe it may be clinical, SEE YOUR GP!  Either way, small goals help.  Set yourself a small goal every day, even if it is something basic like tidy up, or go for a short walk.  Don't let yourself become a hermit, and don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it; that is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign that you know that you need help and have the guts to ask for it.

Best of luck x*x

Answer 8

Yes I do Sweetie... first things first... I don't think anyone is ugly, it is all the way they view themselves. But if this is how you feel about yourself then start consintrating on what is in your heart... the person inside that body that no one seeing with their eyes, but feels with their hearts. And maybe you could make some changes for the better to inhance a better view of your looks. Secondly there are debt speicalests out there that help you manage your debt for free. If it is way to much for you to handle you can always go the route of bankruptcy. Everyone says it is bad but I can tell you from experience it isn't. It gave me a new lease on life. They say it messes up your credit but that isn 't true either. Sense then I have had cedit cards and had a 2007 ford pickup. Untill I became disabled and can not work anymore. Nuw the point is, it cleared up alot of tension for me. You are still pretty young in your life it doesn't have to destined to be this way. Get yourself into some therapy for your looks we need to get you some self esteem Honey. The rest can work out pretty easy really.  Set small daily goals for yourself, not to hard but easy ones ,"Like today I am going to be happy all day and let nothing get to me, tomorrow I will work on beinbg happy and work on my apperance", do you see what I mean? If you would ever just like a new friend to talk to email me from my profile page and I will give you my IM info and we can talk, I will do whatever I can to help you in anyway I can. Best of luck to you, HUGS

Answer 9

Don't give up there. We all feel like our lives are cr*p sometime or another, just take one day at a time. At 20 everyone is paranoid about how they look, but just think about it, everyone worries about how THEY look, not about how you look, so cut yourself some slack. Theres only so much we can do about our looks you just have to make the most of your good points, and at 20 you have youth on your side so thats positive. About the debt, well we all have had money worries too. Again just take one day at a time, seek financial assistance from the citizens advice bureau and stop spending tomorrows money. You can only spend the same money once. Things will brighten up for you I'm sure of it. We have all had duff times and got depressed, take it slow things will get better, good luck x

Answer 10

It helps to make a plan. Just a small one to start.

Look at one thing that is a problem. Forget the other stuff. Just focus on that one problem. Figure out some simple steps to begin taking to solve it. Don't go crazy trying to fix it immediately. Take the time you need.

Follow suit with each one only after one has been resolved. Remind yourself that you didn't get in your situation overnight - it will take a little time to get out of it.

Good luck - you CAN do it!

Answer 11

weeks ago, i got a kinda stomach problem and the GP said it is because of the stress that i am having from my daily life. i am under 20! my rent recommend me a book and it is written by a monk.  that is about the real life and how to deal with the problems that we have to face through out our whole life.

'The life without problems would be a barren existence without the opportunity for spiritual growth.' that is the portion of the book i like best. (sry i can't find a link to that book.) and now i fell myself like, getting better!  but i ve never owe money to other people.  anyway, what i think is, the more free you can stay away from the depress, the more there will be great chance for you to make a better life. with the depression, things will just get worse!