How to get past having your best friend die :[?

Question

My best friend just died... I feel like my whole world has crashed it. I've done nothing but cry. I feel like i have no reason to wake up in the morning.. I just would love to hear from anyone who has lost a loved one, pet, or anything.. It hurts so bad. I don't know how to cope... :[

Answer 1

Im so sorry - I lost a few friends when I was younger - one when I was 12 cried for sooooo long - each day got better, every year i send her family a christmas card just to say "Hi" - Another when I was about 14 or so - It was like a sock in the chest - its hard, but you will be stronger let your self cry, but dont forget to live too - your friend would want you to have a life too

Answer 2

Everyone has to go through that sometime or another in there life. It's just best if you concentrate on the good things that have happened between you too. Also be able to make new friends and just keep thinking positive. I've been through that many times. From them being my best friend so it'll be okay, I promise. Life will be hard for a while but it WILL get better.

Good luck, sorry for you're loss.

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Answer 3

I'm sry to hear about ur best friend

ive gone through that and well i still am its been 2 years and the pain doesn't go away. when I lost my friend.....well it was something that i never want to feel again. the first months were hard for me, the way I though of dealing with things was just let time go by and eventually I would "get over it". But i didn't the pain was still there and still is I think about her everyday and think about what she would say to me if she saw me sad because of her. I think that she would want me to b happy, live life, and never forget her. That's what i do and i think u should ask yourself what would your best friend say if she/he saw u  sad and not enjoying life because she/he is gone.....I'm sure she/he would want u to b happy as well...

good luck

and again im sry for ur loss

its a great deal of pain It hurts I know it does but just never forget about her.  

Answer 4

In second grade. A girl named Sam died (a second grader in my class) she died of a heart attack on the soccer field. My friend-whos name i wont say-- (sam was her best friend)

i dont know how she coped with it, but my friend is soo strong and now that we are both in 9th grade she is just a happy, cheerful great person.

She still misses and loves her friend. Cause friends never go away right? Loosing someone: I dont call it that, because their never fully gone.

im sorry about you friend, truly i am. And as i have always said..... things happen for a reason.

Answer 5

i am so sorry about your best friend i sincerely am that happend to me in 6th grade and sometimes i still cry about it and how much i miss her

im so sorry<3333

you dont need to get over it in a snap take all the time you need

things like that shouldnt be rushed. just find things you like

and find something else to do instead of crying maybe go on

a walk

Answer 6

wow srry to hear that the best advise i can give you is go through the greaving processe it helps and 1 way to deal with it is get a tattoo it reall helps u deal with ur emotions

Answer 7

You don't, just grieve on your own time and try to keep it together when you go out in public.

For me it's alot harder to stop crying (for whatever reason) when people are all over me trying to comfort me. I guess it just makes me feel more comfortable to let it all out when they want to be there for me. Which just makes things harder somehow.

My dog of 8 years was put down, it'll be 3 years in January. I still cry sometimes.

Answer 8

you know, nothing tears you apart more painfully than to have someone you love taken away from you! forever! so go on. and cry. cry some more. cry until you have no more tears left! you have every right to mourn! to grieve! then after you run over and over all the happy thoughts you have for this person. think and ask yourself. is she/he happy where she/he is now? is she/he at peace?  will she/he feel anymore pain or even suffering? and you will then realize that she/he is in a better place, a place where you would want anyone you love to be! a place of peace and happiness!

p.s.

whenever you lost someone you love.......remember, that you always gain another angel to look after you!!

take care,

your best friend

Answer 9

well don't worry yes it is sad i lost my mom when i was in 1st grade don't worry u'll stop crying soon and will never forget them but u will move on even though it may not seem so i'm really sry

Answer 10

IM SO SORRY! I know how it feels. I lost my bunny family when they all died. I cried and screamed and praying didn't fix anything. I know what it feels like. what helped me cope was continuing regular activities. it took my mind off what was killing me. i mean, i can't suffer forever. we just got move on. i know i may make you feel worse, but time will ease your pain. pray every night, talk to her in heaven, she'll be listening.

Remember, never let this stop you from doing anything else. Don't let this take you away from your social life. Right now, your gonna need your friends the most. Create new relationships, it will ease the pain also.

I'll pray for her too. I'll talk to her tonight. I bet she misses you like crazy. I'll find out when I go to bed.

She's in our thoughts & prayers <3

Answer 11

Hurting someone can be SOOO painful. I've never really lost a bestfriend. I've only lost my grandpa and a couple cats. and a hammy. But way back when I lost my grandpa, he was my best friend (i was 5). I didn't completely understand death then, but I got it enough to know he wasn't coming back. I used to wake up in the middle of the night and cry. Actually, I still do cry about it and its been almost ten years since his death.

Honnestly, I think the best thing you can do right now is cry. Just let everything out. You'll feel better once all that emotion is out of you. And I understand that you feel you have nothing to live for, but you do! You have you're whole life ahead of you, and I know it hurts now, but, in time, the pain will go away. Just be careful. You don't want to go into depression. It's okay, completely normal, to feel sad at first. But eventually you're going to have to (sorry if I sound harsh) get over it.

If you're having trouble, you might also want to try therapy. Or even talking to you mom, or your other friends who share your pain.

Oh yeah, one more thing. Eat chocolate. Something in chocolate actually makes you happier. But don't forget to take a nice long walk after that to burn off the calories. And walks also feel nice when you're greiving. It helps circulate everything, and feels alot better.

Good luck!!!!

Answer 12

Let me start off by saying

I am so sorry to hear that

It will take some time to get over your friend. You just need to think of the good times. And pay for your friend. As long as you keep them in your heart then you will be able to get over them. Just think of good times.

Answer 13

My best friend died in a car accident when I was 12. It was a really hard time, and I understand what you're going through. What helped the most for me was the mutual support I shared with other friends who knew her. We held a memorial service together and released 12 balloons (one for each year of her life). We talked a lot, and all got together to spend time with her little sister, who was in the car with her when it happened.

I suggest you do something similar. Get all your friends together for a private memorial service. Even if its just a sleep over where you get together and share memories. You are needed to support other people who are going through the same thing as you. This will help with the healing process. Don't just keep what you're feeling inside. Talk to someone. I am very sorry for your loss.

Answer 14

Well, you can try to think about the good times. When I was little my first pet died. It was Happy, my dog. What made it real sad was that he was still a puppy. What happened was that he ran off to get a toy that rolled across the street. Then a car came speeding through the street. My poor Happy got ran over. =(