How to get rid of my stepdad?

Question

he is verbally and physically abusive and an alchoholic. my mom says to just ignore him, but i can't....

what should i do?

Answer 1

sweetie, you should not live in that situation, if you are a minor, then report him.  Tell someone in school so they can call social service.  It looks like your mom is not going to help you....she's in denial....

Answer 2

call someone for help, your friends parents, your teachers, the people that deal with abusive parents (i have no idea what their called)  someone!  

Answer 3

OMG! Your Mom just said to ignore him, cuz she probably doens want to get hurt again, and doesnt wanna belive that he is doing these things. You HAVE to tell soemone, anyone. If I were you, I would call the police. Your step-dad is not aloud to do this!! Good luck!  

Answer 4

That is the whole problem right there in a nutshell dear, your mother ignores it and expects everyone else to also.

If the concern is there in you then it should be a concern with your mother and she is the one that needs to step up and let him know her limitations with it and try to get him to seek help.

You can get in with an Al-Anon Group n your area and learn more about how to deal with this. There are good ones and bad ones, big picky about it. When we as a family went I stopped going because all they wanted to do was talk about the bad things their family member did drinking. Nothing positive was ever mentioned about the fact they were making their life better for being a part of rehab. I chose to look forward and not backwards. I wish my mother had done the same.

Alcoholism is a disease and you get to a point that it is not so much a choice of the one drinking it is something their body craves and the crave overtakes what is right or wrong. They loose control, just like smoking.

Again, work together as a family. Instead of confronting your father at this point confront your mother and other siblings that may be too use to living with it and dealing with it only to wake up the next day and deal again. There has to be a stopping point and it will either be his health that does it or a family that cares enough to not live around it.