How to get rid of someone?

Question

There is this really rude and annoying girl who I invited to my party but only because otherwise she would like spread rumors about me at school. She is really rude and loud and acts like she owns my house. How do I politely disinvite her from my party?

Answer 1

Get some cholas or homegurlz to beat the c**p out of her, foh realz, gurl!

Answer 2

You should never let anyone bully you into anything and you need to stand up to this girl. If she misbehaves in any way at the party, your parents can tell her to leave, so that's out of your hands. Uninviting her is really not an option at this point, you just have to watch her and make sure she doesn't act up.

Answer 3

either you're prepared to accept whatever rumours she may spread about you or you're not.

if you are, i think saying something simple like "you're not welcome and you wouldnt have a very good time" is really effective.

if she goes on and says she doesn't care, i don't think theres anything to do other than a) insist or b) put up with it and just ignore her while she's there, that way she won't want to come back in a hurry

she clearly feels intimidated by you or she's lonely. alternatively, you could try interacting with her on her level and that way she could come to your party and not feel the need to be a jerk.

Answer 4

I don't think there's much you can do if you've already invited her.  But after the party, ditch her.

Don't worry about rumours too much.  I'm sure you must have other friends - why don't you warn your closest friends (after the party!) that you're not hanging out with her anymore and if she starts spinning lies about you then that's why.  They'll then know prior to her stories and hopefully won't take any notice.

I know it is never that crystal clear in school but at least try to get rid of her if you can (she really does sound like bad news).  

If one of my kids had a friend who was as rude as her, I'd have banned her from my house a long time ago (so that's something else you could do, get your folks on your side and tell them what's going on with her and I'm sure they'll be pleased you're trying to ditch her)

Answer 5

you cant do those things without hurting somones feelings. to try to fool her would only hurt her more than if you would just tell her that you dont think you two get along because of "the above". dont be rude just be relaxed and if she responds in anger thats just her own doing and she has no intention of listening to what you had to say then walk off as calm and collected as you aproched her. oh and if you respond to rumors they only look to be true. laugh at them and make fun of how stupid somone must be to have come up with somthing like that.

If it is that bothersome then you have to tell her. in order for positive growth you must remove the negative things around you. if she is truely your friend than she will find it in her for change. If you show her you have respect for yourself and your family, she will either respect you for it and respect your wishes or she will dissapear in a flurry of rage that she will nurture until she finds her own selfrespect. and that you cannot help her with. Leave your door open for whenever she chooses to come back but as a friend who respects you.

Answer 6

Liars eventually lose all credibility.   I would not feel guilty about lying to someone like that.  Even if she did spread "rumors" about you, you could reply with the truth.  Maybe that is what she needs, someone to call her on her behavior.

Answer 7

Pick a fight (an argument..not a fist fight) with her and never make up.  OMG how can you stand it?

Answer 8

just tell her if she don't calm down she will have to leave!

put your foot down!  

pull her a side and say hey "jan" a few of the guest here have made it know that your being too loud.  in honor to our other friends please tone it down a bit or i'm going to have to ask you to leave!

if she asked who said that just say they told me not to say i'm sorry!  i'm not telling you either!

that will only stir up pointless drama!

Answer 9

it's hard, but really, tell her you don't like the way she treats you, your house and that your parents don't appreciate the way she acts either.  Respect your parents and more importantly yourself.......don't let peer pressure rule you! Take charge and tell her she is no longer invited and until she can be more respectful that you don't want to hang out with her.  And if she starts rumours, hold you head up, you know the truth and those who know and already like you will know the truth too.  Sounds like people would know she was full of it anyway!

Answer 10

Tell her straight out that she is not invited to the party because your parents are only allowing so many people.

It's your party, you can invite and dis-invite who you want.

She can suck it up and learn better manners if she wants to be invited to more places.

Answer 11

You want to "politely" tell a rude, obnoxious person she's not welcome. Great character on your part.

Be straightforward with her. Point out her personality flaws and let her know that you find it annoying.

Answer 12

Since you invited her there is no polite way to disinvite her.  You could do it but be prepared for her to spread rumors and be rude to you.  The good thing is you will grow and probably never see her again.  How old are you?  How can she act like she owns your house if your parents are around?  How old are you?

Have you told your parents about her behavior?  I can't believe your parents would want her to come over when she acts like that.  If so, I feel sorry for you.  #1 no guest should go in the fridge or on the computer without asking first.  Just because you've known her your whole life doesn't mean you need to put up with her abuse.

Answer 13

Stop talking to her and stop inviting her. Give the excuse that your parents disallow you to invite her. If she asked for the reason, say you don't know.

Answer 14

Stick your tongue out, cross your eyes, put your thumbs againest your temples and wag your fingers above your head.