How to get the message across to my Girlfriend?

Question

i have been with her 6 months now, but very frequently she changes like when we are supposed to meet. for example today we were ment to spend the day in london and then eat out afterwards so she says can we move it till 2:00 and i was like yeah thts fine, then she said 4 then and hour after that she said 5 and now 6 all because she was PAINTING HER ROOM. She does this all the time and if i ever do anything like that i get in the neck. is this just girls way?

how do i get the message across that i am angry at her? i have chatted to her about it but nothing changed i need some kind of tactic or something to get it in her head.

i mean cmon im tryin to celebrate a 6 month here. how hard do i have to try?!?

Answer 1

Mate, she is messing you around and obviously aint that bothered, not all girls are like that, trust me from experience it aint worth the hassle, you should not need to try and get a message across to a girl, if she was bothered it would come naturally.

The best way to see if she is bothered is call her bluff and tell her you can't be bothered with the relationship if she is gonna carry on messing you about, if she agrees then you know you are best off out of it and get meeting someone else, if she sounds upset that you think like that then you know she must be bothered and just say how you feel and you do want things to work but it takes effort from both sides, good luck

p.s. remember there are plenty more fish in the sea, I used to get real upset when splitting with a girl, but as you get older you realise it aint worth it, there is always someone better round the corner

Answer 2

HONEY,,SOMETIMES YOU MEET GIRLS WHO,,,R RIGHT ON TIME FOR EVERY OCCASSION,,,THEN U MEET N FALL IN LOVE WITH A GIRL THAT IS NEVER ON TIME,,,SO MAYB IF U TELL HER,,THAT THIS IS REALLY HURTING YOU,,N THAT YOU FEEL LIKE SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU AS MUCH AS YOU LOVE HER,,THEN JUST MAYB,,SHE WILL TRY HARDER,,TO BE ON TIME,,ISNT THERE ANY WAY YOU COULD HELP HER PAINT,,,SO SHE GOOD HURRY UP??CAUSE U NO AFTER SHES THREW SHE WILL THEN,,HAV TO SHOWER,,,N PROB TRY ON AT LEAST 5 OUTFITS TO LOOK NICE FOR YOU,,,SO U BETTER COUNT ON AT LEAST ANOTHER HOUR,,,SORRY,,,BUT I DO HOPE U BOTH HAVE A NICE,,TIME,,,,PEACE

Answer 3

Six months may not be all that important to her.  When I was with a guy I didn't even celebrate the one year.  I'll celebrate when I'm married.  If she is busy painting her room then she probably wants to get that done.  Go help her.  Extra hands get the job done faster and then you can still spend time with her.

If she is always changing times on you then tell her that when you make a plan you like to stick to the ORIGINAL plan.  Just remember that it is also a part of who she is.  Just like how you like the original plan.

Answer 4

hm i see your problem. You could just sit her down and talk to her, let her know how you feel! tell her everything you've just told a bunch of strangers. It's really sweet you want to celebrate it and you are trying your best to come to terms with her day schedule so i do think you need to tell her what you feel.

If she doesn't listen then do the same to her! when she wants to meet just say you're busy, she'll get worried or annoyed and just tell her you're proving a point. sounds petty but if she aint listening i haven't got anymore advice!!!

good luck! x