How to get thing's across to my fiance?

Question

Ive been with my finace for a few years now and we have the most adorable son in the world. There are times that I feel that he doesn't care about this like when we first started dating and were together the years. I want to make him feel good. Feel happy and whenever we go out i want everyone to look at us. But he doesn't care what I look like and he doesn't barley says he love me. He says he know i love him nd he loves me that's what only matters. With wedding stuff. He told me anything I want anything i can have I can have it. So planning by myself its hard. Don't know where to start or go about things. I have allot figured out but its nice to get another op ion on things? So how can i tell his mom that I divided 250 between 6 of us and his side has 83.3 and mine has the same and have her to under stand it, because she thinks she has the right to invite more people her list is 190 and our reception hall only sits 200-230 so do I sound like I'm insecure?

Answer 1

Hmm.. Your wedding- your choice, don't let other interfere!~  

Answer 2

If she is paying, she can invite more.  If you're paying or it's divided, then you need your fiancé to back you on this.

Answer 3

Here's the thing. If you want him to be involved, you need to let him know that his input is import to you and your wedding is the reflection of the two of you. As far as your to be mother in law is concerned, things are how they are. If the hall only holds so many people, that is how it is. You need to tell her that this is your wedding and you are going to plan it.  

Answer 4

join the club. Men just don't care that much about wedding's. I mean, My wedding ceremony could involve an elephant and a troupe of acrobats and my husband would give about as much thought to it as if we were getting married in levis. Men just don't care that much. I've been planning it by myself with my mom.

I had the same prob with my future MIL. She kept adding people and adding people and we kept telling her we had figured it out so it was even and she kept adding more people. But it worked out.

Just tell her that space is limited and so you have had to limit it to 84 people per side. Give her that number and let her decide who to cut out. If she makes a fuss over not being able to invite so and so's uncles' cousin's neighbor, tell her that for now she needs to keep it at 84, and then later after rsvp's start coming in you will let her know if more space becomes available.

Tell her that your reception hall has limited space, and that 84 people per side is the best way to fit the most important people while keeping it equal.

If she still doesn't understand after that, remind her that you are paying for it (assuming you are of course) and if you need to you will cut out who YOU want to. Give her the option to narrow it herself so she can invite the important people first, but let her know that if you are having trouble with numbers and too many people, YOU will be the one pruning it further if she hasn't.