How to get your children to listen to you?

Question

My children are pretty good kids. Though sometimes can completly ignor what i say. How do you get your children to listen to what you say, not back chat etc.

Answer 1

If they run off then i would give them a couple of swats on the butt. Be a parent they don't always have to like you they have to listen to you and respect you!

Answer 2

give them a timeout when they go overboard...like a corner...believe me they start going there by themselves whenever u tell them time out!!!!!! hehe but don't do it like on every single thing cause they will not take it seriously then! teach them to tell u sry then then if they behave give them a treat!

Answer 3

its part of childrens nature.u cant make them do or listen to whatever u say.thats a bit cruel.

try to get more close to them.talk to them,understand what they want.let them think u r their best friend not mother/father.

good luck:)

xoxo

Answer 4

As long as you dun start shouting at them. We do that esp when we are stressed. Coz they will learn later on and start shouting back at you or slibblings. I admit in making that mistake but never too late to learn. Like most answers - stop the kids fr doing whatever they are doing and look at them (seriously) on eye level and talk with a firm and confident voice (= I mean business) It works 90% of the time for me now. No stress but again - they are kids! Part of their job is just being that! All the best

Answer 5

I stand in front of my neice/nephew and tell them to look into my eyes so I know they are listening. THey have to physically stop doing whatever it is they are doing and look at me and nod that they understand. I only do this when I really need them to listen, though, and it works very well.

Answer 6

shout!!! scream!! they'll find it funny

i do

Answer 7

Make them listen to you at any means necessary.

Answer 8

Action = consequence

If they listen they are praised and thanked and know they are behaving in the desired manner.  

If they do not there needs to be a consequence of appropriate level that is meaningful to them.    There are a host of ways to do that and there are many that are only appropriate for certain ages.  Revoking privleges, time out, taking away toys, etc.  

The big thing I have discovered is that when I move the consequence up to when  I have told them to do something, I avoid a lot of frustration for myself by not having to repeat and that can result in anger and raised voices.  Once they learn you mean it the first time, they are much quicker to action.

Answer 9

Set an example by listening to them.  If they disagree with you, be willing to hear their side of the story.  Sometimes they just want the chance to express themselves; then they'll do what you ask.  

Ask; don't tell them to do things.  No one wants to be ordered around, but most people, kids included, cooperate if asked politely.

Pick your battles.  Don't lecture them over every little thing, and if you have to lecture them, keep it short, to the point, and calm.   The minute you start to yell, they'll get their defenses up.

Answer 10

The only way someone can have authority is for that person to TAKE it.  It is up to the parent to make it very clear that he/she is in charge and that nothing short of obedience will be accepted.  

I know that sounds like a drill sergeant, but it can be done with a loving, firm hand.  If a parent can find the perfect balance between gentleness and firmness, he/she can easily maintain control and authority.

One BIG, HUGE factor in the whole equation in getting children to listen is to be consistent.  

For example, let's say we're walking though the mall and I tell my child he may not run. He has been doing great walking beside me the whole time until he sees the carousel!  All of a sudden he takes of running towards it. Do I ignore it because I know he's just excited or do I remind him of the rule?  Ignoring it is inconsistent and only teaches him that I mean what I say SOMETIMES.  He'll never know WHEN I mean it.  He'll always be trying to get away with not listening because he knows I might not really care this time.  But if I remind him, "Don't run", he is being taught consistency and self control.  The next time we're at the mall and I tell him 'no running', he'll know that there are no exceptions and he shouldn't even waste his tie trying.

In this scenario, the child was excited and in his excitement, he forgot what I said, so there is no punishment for disobedience because it wasn't really disobedience; it was excitement.  IF, however, after I remind him to walk and he still continues running, THEN he gets a punishment ~ (in this case I would probably not let him ride the carousel or make him hold my hand the rest of the mall outing). There has to be consequences for bad behavior and not listening.  If there are no consequences and no consistency, kids will not be consistent in their behavior, or they will consistently misbehave.

Answer 11

Get down to their eye level and maintain eye contact with them while you are talking to them.  This shows them that you are serious, and need them to listen to you.

With the older one, ask them to repeat what you have just told them.

maintaining eye contact means that you are holding their attention.

This seems to work well for me with my kids!  6 and 9 year old - been doing this since they were little and it works a treat!

This way, you also know they heard you, so if they choose to disobey then you can dish out whatever discipline you see fit.

Answer 12

My husband is able to by using simple language in an authoritiative voice. He repeats as necessary. He stops talking if they stop listening and gets their attention again by being authoritative and speaking up. Once he has their attention then he lowers his voice. You are the parent so take control of it. You love your kids. You want them to respect you. My husband's kids respect him and are good for him for the most part. There are definitely bouts where they act up. He remains calm for the most part. He uses that authoritative voice, strong, firm, confident.

Answer 13

i dont know how old they are but usely tell them the truth say it not cool not to listen if u dont listen to me u wont listen to any one else and that gonna be bad in ur future please i want to see whats best for u the nice house the nice cars and the nice relationships u would also learn something u didnt know in life all the time if u start listening to me because i am just the beginning of ur life and it wont be as hard because u make ur life no one else at less listen and know that u care.

Answer 14

The naughty chair is a great way to get your kids to listen. A chair in a quiet place in the house, where they can do time out. Number of minutes per age they are, 3yrs.- 3 minutes.

After the time out, you kneel down, face level, and tell them what they did wrong and ask them to repeat it and apologize. Also, reward them for good behavior with stickers or a special event they would like to do, going to the park? Good Luck

Answer 15

a time out chair works go for how old they are or how much u think they should go in

my parents spanked me once and i got it thro my had but that may not be ur parenting ang i respect that

Answer 16

Hello my kids have adhd odd i no where everone is coming from it is a nightmare. Have a behavior system in my home i use it is called buck dollars that i found on my site they get $7.00 fake dollars on sunday it starts goes right through the week if they misbehave they get a warning and if they don't get the warning i take it and sit them down  for 8 minutes for one and 6 minutes for the other and tell them why they are sitting and what they did wrong if they lose all of them they don't get to go out on the party barge and fish we live on 5acres of river frontage it goes 19 miles. Heres another one green light orange light red light that is another system.