I have been going out with my girlfriend for 10 months... it has been a rollercoaster 1 but deep down we love each other... but I fear that it might end before our year anniversary. The problem I suspect is largely to do with me - We are both 21
My girlfriend is a typical one, wants attention... wants to feel loved... wants to know I'm in her thoughts, wants to be talked to everyday. Not too pushy, does not require constant gifts or needing money to support the relationship, likes to get that buzz now and then, likes a bit of romance...... I know, as you can see, problem - I don't really know how to do any of these or do them consistently... pathetic right?
She claims it is just the way I am... that I don't know what to do... that I can't give her what she wants despite me abling to list all that in front of her. I am able to give her a love-boast in person... but she says that the problem still lies, and that me being there only temporarily compromises for the missing feeling. The worst problems occur away from each other... She is tired of my incapability - not me as a person... it might be true, but the fact is that I love her and I just dont know how to show it.
There may have been a number of reasons why its like this, we experienced no honeymoon period at the start of the relationship.. that was before we started and I didnt realise it or asked her out. By the time we went out, the timing was all wrong and the feeling was confused for her especially... Also, we have frictional arguments over "me" and pretty much all the things I have mentioned above... I assure her I can change and that I know what she wants... I do know what it is, I sometimes do it.. and it lasts a few days before she is "the feeling" deprived again.
So... Help... what is wrong? is it just me? Maybe I was born to not be love-compatible? ... Sorry if it's a bit wordy
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