How to handle a 6 year old's bad behavior???

Question

My 6 year old is driving me crazy - literally. He's an angel in school, but at home, he doesn't listen to ANYTHING I say, he's disrespectful, talks backs/argues, refuses to follow any of the house rules and can't keep his hands to himself when it comes to his 2 year old brother. And now my 2 year old is starting to hit and say "no" all the time when asked to do something. He's even starting to hit my 6 month old daughter! I'm really stressing over what to do about all this. There are many days I cry, because I just don't know what to do. And I'm developing a temper that I've never had before.

I know the root of the problem is my 6 year old's behavior. I've tried to be strict, consistent with punishments and rewards, getting him involved in special activities - nothing has worked....Any suggestions??

Answer 1

Beat his a$$ and the 2 year old also. When he comes home send him straight to his room and if he refuses to go beat his a$$ all the way to the room.

Answer 2

In school everything is planned out and labeled on calenders that help the children stay focused on what is happening next.  Maybe if your 6 year old and you had a set day to day plan that you guys could follow then you two might have less confrontation.  Children learn well on schedules!!

Answer 3

I have a six year old, four year old and ten month old.  Believe me, I feel your pain.  I have the same type of problems that you seem to be having.

Here are my best solutions.  Our problems may be different, but I hope it will help.

No video games, computer games, Wii, TV-- NOTHING after school until Daddy gets home (and even then, we don't turn it on most nights).  That goes for me and for the kids.  My children misbehave the most when I'm online and I end up yelling, punishing, ignoring, etc. and they end up just being worse and worse.  They also fight the most over video games:  who gets the better controller, who gets to choose the game, etc.

Instead, he (and his brother) must do his homework, read, practice piano, help me cook, play board games or do art.  We go outside to play.  I also let him listen to children's songs on the iPod, it seems to calm him down and make him feel mature and thus, he acts older.

Kids really know how to push our buttons, don't they?  I hope you can get some peace.

Answer 4

A GOOD OLD FASHION A S S WHOOPIN!!!!

Answer 5

Consistently punish him. Sit him down, and talk to him, and tell him what he's doing is wrong. After that, he has no more chances. Every time he does something wrong put him in time out for some time depending on how bad the thing is. Take away his favorite toy. Don't let him watch t.v or use the computer. Keep doing this until he realizes what he's doing is wrong. If you have to take away everything so all he has is a bed and clothes in his room then you should most definitely do it. After too many timeouts, and after everything in his room is gone then tell keep in his room all day except for school and meals. Don't feel bad about any of this. If you don't discipline him now, it;s going to be harder and harder to do as he gets older.

Answer 6

There's a lot of help out there just be patient and find the right way for you there's books like 1-2-3 there parenting groups that have advice there's after school activities and what also may help is to take away some of his favorite things and have him earn them back with his behavior.

Answer 7

sounds like a few things are happening-a kind of "perfect storm"-

he is so good in school, and neds to release when he gets home (so hard to be so good for so long!)

he sees other kids misbehaving in school and picks up bad habits

he is jealous of the little ones who get to stay home with you all day

i would suggest private time with him when he gets home (and upcoming summer break) for just the two of you, where he can be the center of attention.

also, as you've been doing, continue to enforce rules and punishment, like taking away priveleges, etc., but maybe more importantly, reinforce even the smallest good behavior. praise and reward. good luck-i sympathize with your being at the end of your rope, but hang in there. get a sitter or ship em all to grandmas for a night out-sounds like you need it!

Answer 8

Maybe your 6 year old is worn out from school, needs more sleep.  Also check what he's eating, make sure he's getting a healthy diet and maybe even sign him up for some sort of activity or sports.   All kids and adults too do better when they have regular physical exercise.

Stay firm, stay consistent.  I know it wears you out, but keep up the discipline.  I remember sometimes it felt like all I was saying all day long was "No", but just stick to your guns and grit your teeth through this rough patch.  Whatever you do, don't give in....the minute you cave or become inconsistent, it adds fuel to the fire because they know that if they are persistent it will wear you down.

Answer 9

Maybe take him to a conusar becuase he has anger managment. Well he might. I hope this helped and good luck.

-Tara