How to handle stepchild's mother?

Question

My boyfriend's daughter's mother wants to meet with him to discuss visitation and meeting times. Should I be there also? We are planning on getting married in the near future so I will be around for awhile, my relationship with the child is ok, but only know the mother as a high school aquaintance.

Answer 1

Marriage has a large basis on trust. If you don't trust your fiance to go make arrangements on his own, you shouldn't be marrying him. If this question is more based on you being there as support, I would say you have every right to be there (and even should be) as these arrangements will affect you as well. Good Luck :)  

Answer 2

Best thing to do is to stay out of the way. Let them work it out. If you are there, she is liable to change her mind about the arrangement.

Answer 3

In no way am i being mean but this is not your relationship that at all, that is between the child's mother and him.

And when you get married it still will not be your problem to handle.......This is why there are so many issues because the new woman feels threatened and insecure and wants to know every word that is being said. Look he must not like the mother of the child because if he did he would be with her.

Just trust him to take care of it.....I don't think they have to meet anywhere they just have to talk about it over the phone.