How to handle this situation???

Question

Lately my G/F of three months has grown distant. The last time me and her went out and did something was two weeks ago. Today she started a new job and I asked her if she wanted to go out to dinner and celebrate her new job. She responded with lets see if i make it thru the day before we celebrate. I replied with I would like to see you as it has been two weeks since we have done anything. Alittle while ago she responded with I'm sorry I have been trying to figure some stuff out. Anyways I am just wondering how I should handle this.

Answer 1

Best thing you can do.

Tell her how you feel, if she seems not bothered, then maybe you should consider whether your relationship is worth the hassle.

Remember, relationships are a two-way thing.

good luck. =)

Answer 2

don't call, don't pursue her. Just disappear. As soon as you stop showing your interest in her she'll start wonder what's up with you suddenly. You can just say - "look i'm happy for you that you got a job, let me know if you wanna get together". if she's interested - she'll come around, if not, then let it be - you'll find someone who wants to be around you more then once a week. Good luck!

Answer 3

Talk to her and ask her what she means by 'having to figure some stuff out'.  Then give her some space.  I know it's hard, but sometimes we all have to evaluate our lives.  

Answer 4

This may hurt your feelings but it sounds like she is losing interest in you. Two weeks is a long time to go without doing anything for such a new relationship. Usually, if you're really into someone you want to be with them every moment you can. Either she really is trying to focus on other stuff in her life or she is just enjoying your attention and not the relationship part. Stop calling her and let her have some space. She'll start missing your attention, wonder why you're not blowing up her inbox and call you. It's hard to sit on your hands when all you can think about is being with her but give her some space and she'll come to you.

Answer 5

It sounds like the spark has fizzled. Prepare yourself for the end of the relationship. It's ok. This one was just not meant to be. Keep the faith and move on. You will be fine. She will be fine.

Good luck :0)

Answer 6

Sometimes big changes in our lives, such as (in your situation) a job change can make us re-evaluate other aspects of our lives, such as lifestyle, friendships, and even romantic relationships. When we see our lives taking a different direction, its normal to think "How does this person/relationship fit into my life now?". That was the vibe I was getting when you said she told you "she as figuring some stuff out".  

She is keeping her distance, but the most important thing to remember, and its also the hardest is to NOT take it personally. She may want to end the relationship and you can't blame yourself for that either. I know, I know... way easier said than done, but I don't think its anything that you did. I just think that maybe she is at a crossroads and is looking to make some changes in her life. Sometimes when this happens, people just grow apart instead of together. I know this is no comfort to you, but I am just trying to be honest with you.

I think the best thing you should do is back off for a bit. Keep in touch but keep your communications with her short and sweet. I advise you to NOT do the "relationship" "what's going on" "where are we going" talks. Don't even bring it up. That will without a doubt add pressure and make her pull away from you even more, if not for good. Light talk. Happy talk. Avoid serious conversations for now... seriously... I can't stress this enough. Have you ever met anyone who says "I just LOVE pressure?" Exactly. Be supportive, but give her some space.

That is the best advice I can give you. I hope it all works out.

Answer 7

Ask her if she is happy, or is she just to scared of breaking it off with you, because that's what it sounds like to me!