Hello, I am 25 year old father to a child of almost 2 years old with a 33 year old Argentine women. I am living in Argentina for almost a year now. I have constantly been fighting to see my child on a regular basis without supervision and without conditions. To have a great joyful life with my son, to be his best friend, and to be a much needed guide in his life until he is able to grow on his own. Yet constant excuses and lies are made to stop me from seeing him steadily.
From 2 months to 11 months of my child's life I did not see him because I moved to my home country to work and support him financially in which I have paid more than enough for all his needs. I had broken apart with her before I left. I returned before my son turned 1 years old.
For almost a year now being back in Argentina, I have barely seen my son. Although keeping the money flowing, to my son supposedly, trying to communicate with my sons mother as parents only, trying to show my good intentions to be a quality part of our sons life, I have to see him with a social worker. We still haven't gone to court yet, but I'm thinking now its the only way to where I can get more than 2 hours per week to have quality time with him.
**Facts of mother and father; We fought and screamed and Insulted each other to a heart felt level after our son was born. I had left her alone with a child to raise for a few months, but never had left to abandoned them, which she knew. I had returned with peaceful, good, and happy intentions too child and parent both, I wish I could say the mother had/has these too but I cannot.
My thoughts; I believe she is still angry about the events that had passed. I believe she thinks of our son as an object and possession instead of a child with rights and needs. I believe her emotions are holding her back from communicating with me in a civil manner for our sons sake and well-being. I believe she blames me for everything. Basically, I honestly don't believe in her ability to handle, or even let alone, face the situation that we have found ourselves in, in a proper, reasonable, and healthy way. I wonder if she still regrets meeting me (which she has told me), or does she actually regret loosing me.
My questions; Should I accuse her of being an unfit mother in court? Should I request for her to be psychologically analyzed, which I have no problem being submitted to this as well, to find out if she is unfit? Should I wait till she calms down and just have patience and faith (but loose precious time with my son)? Should I just request three days to see my son, without supervision, in court and see what happens?
Please, any advice would be appreciated. I'm constantly thinking about my son and how he's doing and what conditions he is.I loose sleep at night, and I cannot even call her and ask about him, or even talk to him on the phone. Thank you in advance.
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