How to help a friend who had an abortion?

Question

I have a friend who about 4 years ago we stopped talking after I tried getting her help after following a long path down the wrong road. She became a believer and about 4 months ago we started talking again and have been hanging out.

She hasnt told me everything that has gone on with her during those 4 years, however I have connected the dots and know she has had an abortion. after a great time tonight we stopped off to grab a bite to eat. there was a group of us who went in and i could tell there was something wrong.

apparently someone she saw in there had to do with the abortion some way and it brought back alot of bad memories for her. How can I go about trying to console her during this time without her knowing I know whats going on?

Answer 1

For most of us who have had a termination there is a sense of shame and guilt - and a concern about people judging you.  Just let her know you are there for her and there is nothing she could tell you that would shock you or change your love for her.  Maybe then she might open up to you - but that is up to her not you.  

Answer 2

Tell her that you wanna be there for her and help her, but she has 2 let you know whats goin on 1st

Answer 3

My friend got an abortion as well. To be honest its a depressing period and there is no way you can help her. But there is something you can do to make her feel better. Take her out on a fun day something not boring or relaxing so she doesnt have time to think. Take her somewhere wild like a concert or an amusement park this will get rid of bad thoughts. Also try getting her to open up a bit but dont push. Always take it slowly eventually she will tell you everything trust me. Also when she does open up fully don't give her your opinion she needs to understand herself what she did. Just offer an ear and thats all you need to make her feel better. Eventually she will be happy again. Its going to take a while