How to help girlfriend heppier, more activity, loss weight?

Question

I don’t know where I should start. I feel sad and upset because I can’t find any way to help my girlfriend happier. I hope I would be lucky when I post something on internet. I know this way is slim. But I don’t have anything else to hope. I hope someone can give me some advices.

We are living so far now. I am in Vietnam, and my girlfriend just came back her home in Canada. She doesn’t have any job there. She is fat girl. Day by day she is unhappier. She is sad, she is more upset about her weight, she is lazier, she is more distant from her friends and me. She does nothing. She spends time to watch TV, and sleep. She sleeps too much. (about 12 hours a day). She wants to be happier, go to gym, to be more activity, to lose weight… But she is too lazy to wake up to go to the gym. She can’t wake up early. She doesn’t have enough energy to do what she wants, what she needs to do. Then she feel sad, and unhappy and lazy… she feels hate herself too. She really wants to change but she can’t make it work out.

I don’t know what to do, except I have been patient to wait for this situation will be better. But it seems the situation is worse. I don’t want we to live in this situation. I can’t get any happy day when she is in this situation. I want to make my girlfriend happy, make her enjoy her life. I wan to be happy with her. I love her so much!

Please help me! Give me your advice! Thank you so much!

Answer 1

You should suggest she see a counsellor.  It sounds like she's really depressed.  On the other hand, you could suggest she join a women's gym to make friends or give her a challenge.  I don't know when you two will be together again, but you could challenge her to run a 10k race with you or to go on a bike trip or something next time you're together.  There are always local groups that go for runs/jogs/walk&runs around.  She could join one, meet other women in a similar boat and spend her time getting fit and making friends!  The exercise and social contact will help the depression which will help her to exercise more. Its a lovely cycle.