How to help my friend in need?

Question

My friend's mom died due to cancer last year and she is still extremely depressed. She has no one to turn to for help. Dad's busy with work and sis's busy with her own stuff....how can i help her??? she has lost all optimism, all happiness, all cheerfulness, and although her birthday is coming, she has also lost the meaning of celebrating birthdays...she has been ignoring some of her friends including me but i will never give up on her

HOW can i HELP her??

Answer 1

i realy feel sorry for ur friend. bcoz no one can full fill of mothers love. its great great loss for any one. but you must explain her the reality of life. no one is permanant in this worldly life. today our parents tomorow is ours. try to engage her with some kind of work. if she is bussy with her life gragualy she will 4get her moms worrys. may god bless her with health and happy life.

Answer 2

My mom has cancer right now.  Whenever people come over it seems as though they say exactly the wrong thing.  If you ask me, one of two routes might work, but she'll either like one or the other, not both.

1)  Come over and let her cry.  Don't say anything, and don't ask if you can come over, just say "When can I come over?" Say,"I know you need to cry and I'm not going to stop you."  Then just let her cry.  Pat her back or head or just nod every so often.  These are motherly habits, and I think they will comfort her and slightly fill the missing hole in her heart for her mom.  Then, remember all the fun memories you have of her mom, and she can tell you hers.  It will remind her of the good life her mom had and let her know that her mom would've wanted her to continue the joy.

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2) Don't discuss her mom.  Come over, take her out to a movie, bake some cookies, treat her to lunch, go shopping, etc.  Give her a few moments away from the pain.  Perhaps buy her a little gift if you go shopping.  Nothing big, like a pair of earrings or sunglasses.