How to help with mom guilt.???

Question

I just want back to work recently. I changed my career to see more of my kids and even work at their school...........But I am suffering pretty bad mom guilt because my work week the last few weeks has been close to 40=hrs.

How do working mothers on hear get past mom guilt and regain a carrer?

Answer 1

I think you should ask this in the parenting section where you will get non biased and hopefully heartfelt answers. I don't think there is anything to worry about If your kids are safe and happy. I hope you feel better.  

Answer 2

Don't feel guilty and don't over indulge your children with things or behavior.  People simply have to work.    I never felt guilty.

Answer 3

Both of my parents worked while I was growing up. I was raised with the help of babysitters and preschool. The truth is, your children are not going to hate you for working. As long as you set aside time so that you can spend time with them, eat dinner together and be there when it is truly important, you should not feel guilty.  

Answer 4

If I feel guilty about doing something, I stop doing it.

If you have no choice but to work, where does the guilt come from?

If you don't feel good about it, stop doing it.

Watch thumbs down, even though this is the best, most honest answer.

Answer 5

I like having a career (I, too, work full-time). I don't like leaving my daughter every day. But she loves daycare (it's an awesome daycare, and she's been with the same other kids since she started nearly a year ago); they do stories, activities, outdoor play, music and singing and artwork. Basically, a lot more than I would have energy for were I alone with her all day. She's a kid who likes to explore. She'd get bored silly if she were home in the house and yard, day after day.

When I pick her up, she laughs and hugs me. We have a great relationship and have had no trouble bonding despite the fact that she's been in full-time daycare since she turned three months old.

Kids in good daycare turn out OK. Don't beat yourself up for doing what you have to do to provide for your family. You're a good Mom.

Answer 6

I didn't think women with careers were supposed to feel guilty.  I thought it was stay at home mothers who were supposed to feel guilty for being 'leeches' 'brain dead morons' 'zombies' and all the other charming things that dear Ms Friedan calls us in her books.

Answer 7

If you find out let me know, ha ha. I struggle with the same thing. I go to school full-time and I also work 25-30 hours a week. My baby is 7 months old. I hate leaving her as much today as I did when I first went back. I just try to tell myself that I'm doing what I have to do for my family. I want my daughter to have things I never had and she will love me all the more for it. Also, when you have time to spend with your children, make the most out of it. Make it quality time. Best of luck =)