How to ignore what other people say??

Question

My mother has never been there for me, and is always caught up in her own judgemental world. I try not to care about what others think, especially her, but I can't help it. If I find clothes or food I love, and if I show her, and she hates it, suddenly I feel terribly self conscious and just feel bad in general. How do I stop caring what she thinks?

Answer 1

everyone wants to please their parents but you have to please yourself first.

Answer 2

that's really tough for your mother to be that judgmental on you. but shes your mother, not saying its right but you feel obligated to take everything in and say ok rather than argue and talk back. tell your self your happy with the way you are and she should be proud of you just the way you are. you dont need to have a negative image on yourself the way she does. when she says something just smile and say ok. or nothing at all, she probably uses that negitivity to build her self up, so she can feel content. do something that makes you feel good. and embrace your every flaw!

theres probably nothing wrong with you!! she just needs something to pick on, dont let it get to you.

look the other way

listent to your fav music

singggg!

Answer 3

Hi: Thats the only mom U have so love n respect her, she will be gone someday and you will wish you had listened to her..have a good day.

Answer 4

Well, in some ways it could sound like she's not being totally honest but also fairly harsh.

There may be some truth in what she says at times but that negativity  can drive you to feel self-conscious. I'm a very honest person when it comes to my friends and I'll tell them if they dress poorly (in the case of one of my best friends) or are just being cocky. There's a multitude of things you can do to ignore what people say but it all starts with feeling better about yourself.

Unless you can mange to bring up your self confidence it's hard to ignore people in the first place. For me I've personally developed a strange habit of sitting in a chair ever since a few summers ago. It's because I use to sit on my bed a lot so now I sit weirdly in public places.

People don't look disapprovingly though, they're just curious to why I do what I do. If there's a legitimate reason for what you do then you shouldn't need someone's input on it.

If you like a certain shirt because it has stripes then that's a good reason. If someone says it's ugly because they don't like stripes it's their business but they can't put you down  because you do. If you think in these terms it's easy to accept your own feelings about what you wear, how you look, and what you do.

Self-confidence is a huge issue to many people. I've gotten over that myself, but I am realistic about it too. I know I'm skinny so I work out to gain weight. Some people may be a little chubby and want to lose weight but it's all about the perception of things. If you've got a good perception of yourself than you won't have any problems. I hope that helps. I know I'm being long-winded but I really do like to go into detail for people.  

Answer 5

It's really hard to not care what your parents think of you because we come from them if they are our biological parents.  But you have to accept that not everyone who are parents are good parents and that they may not be able to show love.  You have to start to look for your self and out side of you mother for self affirmation. I know it's really hard it's a problem that I'm still dealing with with my father and I'll be 53 in a week. But I've come to understand that I have to be who I want to be and who I"m happy with even if that's not what he wants. I have to live my life and raise my children to the best of my ability and if he can't deal with that than it's he's problem.  He had his chance when he raised us and now it's my turn.  I care about him but I'm learning to understand that what he wants for me and what I want and need for my self are two different things and I can't be what he want me to be. IF he can't love me as me than that's he's lose not mine.  She's not being honest she's being critical and you have to understand the difference.  Maybe her parents were that way with her and she never learned any different way of dealing with her kids.  That doesn't mean that you have to accept it or that you have to live with her criticisms.  You can choose to deal with her on other levels and if she's can't be dealt with on another level you'll have to decide how much time you want to spend with her.

Answer 6

yell at her back and slap her and say don't talk to me that way