How to include ex's in first day of school?

Question

i need some advice i have 5 yr old son and so does my husband. both boys live with us full time. my ex hubby gets my son every other weekend and my hubby's ex gets supervised visits w/ no overnights do to her past drug problem. she wants to walk with us from our house because we live so close to school house and go into his room, eat breakfast even though she hasn't been much of a part of my step sons life only when it was convenient for her we had to force her to keep her visits she also wants to bring along her other son and her boyfriend and my ex wants to bring his wife its getting to be crowded. also my hubby and i want to be there for both boys we don't want to be rushed or miss anything either. would it be rude to ask my ex to wait in the hall while i take my stepson in his room, and same with my son and his ex? how do we do this with anybody feeling left out or pissed off?

Answer 1

It sounds to me like you're interested in punishing the exes by using the kids.  Don't forget, this is a special day for them too.  You have no right to take that away from them.  

Ask the kids what they would like.  Above all, it's THEIR day, not yours. It should be about what THEY want, not you.  You're just another parent, no better and no more important than the rest.  

Be glad that these parents want to participate in their child's special day.  So many parents out there could care less.