How to include my boyfriend's biological mama?

Question

My boyfriend was adopted but he has come to know his biological mama, and loves her too. She has some mental handicaps, and made the very loving decision to give him up for adoption because she realized she could not care for him, even though she loved him. She lives in a group home. How would you include her in the wedding? I am thinking of including her name on the wedding invitation as one of the parents, and also am thinking of having her stand up at the wedding ceremony. What do you girls think? My mama died, so I only have one parent. Personally, I think it is not his biological mama's fault that she has handicaps and she gave birth to him, and I want to honor her too. His biological mama does not get to do a lot of things, and I think she would be so pleased to be part of the wedding. What do you girls think? How would you include her in the wedding?

Answer 1

Maybe you can have her read a poem, or a Bible scripture.  Or she can hand out the favors.

Answer 2

That is very sweet. Including her on the invitations would be a great idea. But also, she could be involved in the wedding by reading a poem or having a second mother-son dance. Good luck with all the arrangements and the wedding!

Answer 3

Aww, that is so sweet. I have no clue about weddings but you should defenetly include her into it. Could she be a brides mate? Again, I have no clue about weddings. lol

Answer 4

I would put her name on the invits and have her stand.  I would also give her a corsage as well.  If she is able to dance what about a mother and son dance.  One with the adopted mother and one with his real mom.  I bet she would really like that.  Also depending on her handicaps what if you took her to the store and helped her pick out a dress she could wear.  You could have it be just the two of you or have her son come along as well.  Also make sure she is seated at the family tables at the reception.

Answer 5

I think that it would be a very nice thing to include her in the wedding.  I think that is very respectable.  The two ideas you had sound good.  Also, usually parents sit in a certain spot.  Make sure she is sitting with his adopted parents.  And in some weddings the parents are the last of the guests to be seated and the groom himself walks them down the isle.  I think if you guys were planning on doing that, then she should be included in that.  I have a step-mom and my dad plus my mom.  My husband walked my step-mom down the isle, just like he did with my biological mom.  

Congrats on the wedding and it is really awesome of you to be thinking about including her for this special occasion.

Answer 6

I am adopted and found my birth mother 14 years ago.  I just got married 10 days ago and I included her in the wedding by listing her as a parent in the wedding program.  She wore a corsage just like my adoptive mother.  When we did the rose ceremony I gave her one too.  She was escorted down the aisle immediately after my adoptive mother.  She sat right next to my adoptive mother in church.  She sat with my adoptive mother at dinner.  I was so proud to have both of them there.

I wouldn't ask her to stand up for your wedding.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I think your idea seemed fair and I bet your Husband to be will be so thrilled! You can do it for him as a Surprised!

Answer 8

I would include her name on the invation as a parent as well, I would see how it makes the adoptive mother feels though. As wanting to include her in more stuff, depending on her level of handicap, ask her to go places with you to choose stuff, or take thing to her like invitaions and colors to maybeget her input. That way she will feel like she is a big part by helping you make some of the decisions.