How to keep your mother from drinking uncomtrolably?

Question

ok im 17 and my mom is the worlds biggest alcoholic. she will start drinking at 8 in the morning and continue throughout the day until she is stumbling around and slurring her words. she has been drinkin since she's been 12 yeaold. we've tries putting her in a rehabilitation place twice but both time have failed horribly. each time she gets worse. i need some tiops and pointers on how to keep her from drinking.

Answer 1

Take her to an AA group in your area.There she can make friends with people like her , she can associate with people that were drinkers but now have stopped. They can help support her. There is nothing you can do, she has to want to stop, but her body is saying different. She needs support outside of a rehab facility. Find one in your area and call them yourself and tell them what you are going through, and ask them where are their meetings and what you should do.Most of the people at AA are x-alcoholics, no one knows about an alcoholics but one that's been there done that.

Remember just 4 AA meetings are not enough. She may have to attend them for the rest of her life. Alcoholism is a sickness. She may not ever get over the sickness, but at least you can help assist her to find the right group. If that one didn't work or she didn't feel it find another group.

Answer 2

I would tell your mother what could happen if she continues to do this. And BTW stop being so dramatic, she is not world's biggest alchoholic. My mom probably is. She will begin at 5am and keep going and partying till' midnight. She passed out in the middle of the road from drunk driving at midnight with me in the car on the way home from a road trip. I was taken away and now she threatens us.

just tell her that coould happen to her and maybe she'll stop.

Answer 3

google it and see what you find. hmm...maybe she needs motivation. Like, if she stops drinking, then ____ ?  

Answer 4

It sounds like you just need to step in, take away all the alcohol or hide it. You could even go to the places she buys it and tell them not to accept her i.d. or credit card if thats possible. However i think she would need more help than you alone could give her.

Try finding something to take the place of alcohol. Like a healthier addiction

Answer 5

First, you must realize that the only way for her to get better is for her to WANT to change ... sit with her and  talk to her cry a little tell her how it affects you ... the most important thing for you to do is to make her see how much her alcoholism affects you and the family. whenever you see her drinking talk to bottle away from her and pour it in the sink.  

Answer 6

Sit down and have a long talk with her. Tell her how it makes you feel. Tell her that it kills you and makes you sick to see her drink like that. Tell her if she continues you'll move out. Take action. Hide the alcohal when she wakes up she'll be looking or it. If thats too harsh hide most of them leaving one maybe two left. Make this a pattern  

Answer 7

Unfortunately you can't stop her.  An alcoholic will drink until THEY decide they need to stop.  Sometimes they do find some sort of turning point in their life that makes them stop, and sometimes they don't.  

I don't say this to be negative, but i say it so that you don't blame yourself for her drinking.  If she wants to drink, she will no matter what you do.  Be strong for yourself and just remember that you can only help her if she decides she wants to help herself.

Answer 8

You're old enough to know a hard fact of life - you can't change other people.  She will change only IF and WHEN she decides to change. The best you can do it not be an enabler - don't engage in behaviors that help her drink.  Don't make excuses for her, or pretend to ignore her drunkenness. Let her see that there are consequences to her actions - if she drinks, you won't take her out in public, invite friends over, listen to her rambling.

However, you can change your own life.  You don't have to interact with her if it is unhealthy for you physically, mentally, or emotionally.  You can call CPS and have her removed from your home; you can simply ignore her until you turn 18 and move out.  

In the meantime, take charge of your home.  If you know she keeps alcohol in the house, then consistently dispose of it or pour it down the drain.  If you know she's buying it, then take her money and credit cards away (in the safe keeping of a parent or adult family member, so you aren't accused of stealing).  Hide her car keys.  Get books on dealing with addiction, and put one in every room of the house.  Post signs around the house, like "What's more important: family or alcohol?"  "When you drink, your family hurts."  "Admit you're an alcoholic" or "I know you are capable of getting sober."  All these things can't change her, but they can give her incentive to change or make it difficult for her to continue.

Answer 9

Believe me, you can't stop her. Join Al-anon. I did a long time ago and they helped me tremendously. Good Luck!

Answer 10

my dad's an alcoholic as well. and i've tried so many things to get him to stop. they only thing you can do is wait until she realizes she needs to stop. some people think they only realize when they hit rock bottom. so you'll just have to wait it out. i hope things get better for you. i'm sorry.  

Answer 11

you can't.  you never will be able to.  honestly you should probably go to an Al-Anon meeting.  they have helped tons of people with this.  honestly.  it can really i help, i know it sounds dumb and its boring or scary, but really alcoholism messes up families and people.  You're mom can't even control her drinking so how do you think you are ever going to be able to?  

Answer 12

where does she get the money from?...does she even work?...

Answer 13

intervention

Answer 14

As horrible as it is, you can't help her unless she wants help. That's why the first step is admitting you have a problem. If she can't do that she's hopeless. Hopefully she'll wake up and smell the coffee, but it's possible she self-destructs before getting to that realization.  

Answer 15

Its sad but she is the only one who wants to stop. My dad was the same way and he lost his family (mom divorced him) and we hardly saw him because drinking was more important than us.  Now I am older and he went into the hospital and was almost about to die because of his drinking. Now he has only one kidney, a heart of a 70 yr old (my dad only 45) and his liver is in bad condition. He still has not stopped completly, so I have just come to relize that he is never going to stop drinking, that he is going to drink himself to death.  I have just exept it and all I can do is pray for him and to not be shock if one day I get a call and he is dead.  Its sad but how can you help someone if he won't even help himself???

Answer 16

You can't control your mothers drinking...that's the nature of alcoholism. It can causes untold damage within families. The only thing you can do is something for yourself..you need to go to some meetings I think they are called Al anon ..or children of alcoholics any of those meetings will help you to deal with this problem...they can't solve the problem but they will help to support you in many ways. I understand what it is you're going through. If you phone any of the AA places they will tell you where you will find meetings that would be suitable for you. I really wish I could tell you there is a way to stop her drinking but sadly I can't, it is only your mother that can do that.

Answer 17

RCCola if you have been dealing with this for that many years then you must know that you cannot keep your mom from drinking uncontrollably.  She is the only person who can decide to do this and she must do so for herself, not for anyone or anything else.  Initially when people stop drinking they often do it for others or their jobs, to get the cops off their *** etc., but after a while realize they need to do it for themselves.  You mentioned that AA did not work for your mother, it has worked for many others but is not a perfect program and is not for everyone.  There is also a group called Alanon that is for family members and friends of the alcoholic, to learn how to handle their own lives and not the lives of the drinker.  You may be wise to investigate going to a couple of these meetings, who knows you may hear someone give your story and they may have some answers for you also.  It is awful thing to witness and live through and some folks are not aware of how much it affects other family members when their loved ones are under the control of the bottle.  You can try throwing the guilt at her but this won't work for long and she may even become resentful if you did attempt to do so.   I hope that your mother knows how lucky she is to have a child as loving and caring as you appear to be.  Sorry I could not be of more help, but I would like to wish you, your family and especially your mom good luck on achieving some contended sobriety and you can have your old mom back.  Best of luck.

Answer 18

Wow...I'm sorry about your situation.  It sucks a lot for you growing up.  Unfortunately I think what your mom needs now is serious professional help.  It seems that support and love from her family isn't working to well.

Answer 19

if she drink guiness buy guiness malta non alcahol and taste like guiness or spill her drinks down the sink its good to be concerned i would !  

Answer 20

you can't get her to do anything she isn't ready to do.  What you can do is refuse to purchase alcohol for her and as long as you won't be endangering anyone else let her suffer the consequences of her actions.  If she gets arrested for public drunkenness--don't bail her out, let her spend the night in the drunk tank.  If she gets a ticket for DUI, don't hire a lawyer to get her off and don't pay her fine for her.

you need alateen even if she's not going to AA, they can give you the help you need and teach you how to live your life so you aren't enabling her and help you to not feel guilty about going away to school and moving out of the house and all of those things that you need to do for yourself so that you can grow.

Answer 21

take the stuff and thorw it away