How to know if youre attracted to someone?

Question

Ok so i have this problem..i think im attracted to someone at work. im 19. i dont know how old he is. id say 33 at the most. i feel so bad. its so annoying i NEVER like teenage guys its always like guys in their 20s or thirties...i feel so guilty. im not trying to do this. i know youre not supposed to like coworkers. its annoying. hes really nice and hes funny. all the time hes near me my brain just gos nuts. i dont know what it is. i couldnt sleep because of it for the past like 2 nights and i cant wait til i see him again..what are some signs i like him and why do i keep liking these older guys? ive never been attracted to a teen guy. i feel so bad :( HELP!

Answer 1

When you're attracted to someone, you just act real different around them compared to any other person. There's something special about them that gets your heart going and your mind racing all over. Around crushes, people can get nervous and all sorts of other things. You've already said a sign that you like him. Your mind goes wild and you can't wait to see him and you're totally preoccupied thinking about him.

The reason you keep liking older guys, well, compare all the guys in your mind that you've liked. There's usually a pattern or a specific personality trait that you're being typically drawn to. Whatever it is, you're not seeing it in guys your age.

Answer 2

Well if you think about him  way too often  -  at work, at home, everywhere it tells you are attracted. :)

Is he on your mind a lot?   Also  are  you looking   for excuses to pass by his office to see him??  Yeah, you are attracted to him. :)

Answer 3

It sounds that you are experiencing chemistry with this man. Try to rationalise that chemistry without love can only lead to lust so it isn't worth it and dismiss this part of it from your mind.

You are probably drawn to older men because they appear to be more experienced in life than you feel. This is a misconception a lot of people seem to make. Age does not necessarily mean experience or even sense either!

Don't feel bad about any of this. Why should you. You just need to rationalise it out and get it into perspective. Try to do this soon & get it under control cos he may well be aware of how you feel quite soon if you don't. Best wishes. UK