How to let your feelings out?

Question

i've always been told that i bottle up my feelings, that i should be more expressive, etc. i've been told by my psychologist, ex-boyfriends, friends. family.

it's never bothered me...but today a friend asked me if it didn't bother me that i wasn't living my life with the passion i should live it with.

and the thought has been haunting me all day.

anyone had a similar problem before? is there like a button i can press that will make me cry? i just need to cry, i really want to cry and i can't cry and it's really bothering me because i seriously seriously need to just freaking cry. for like days. i need to cry for days.

Answer 1

stop thinking about it.

i feel like when too much thought is put into it, it never happens (too much pressure)

things will line up when they need to line up.  

then, when you least expect it, bang...

and all will be good

Answer 2

well, some ways you can express your feelings is to put what you feel in writing or write a poem or a song and express yourself, talk to your friends, pray, go to a therapist and just let out everything you have inside or you can do that with you friends

Answer 3

I think that with time the tears will come.. Sometimes when I have emotions that need to be released I journal or do some kind of art therapy.. Then sometimes while I am doing these things the tears will start... I dont think that thinking about it will help you to get to the place where you want to be.. Just stop trying to cry so hard because eventually those tears will come and with the tears a release....

Answer 4

I used to be like that and to some degree I still am. I think for me it stemmed from when I was 8 and someone told me that I needed to be strong for my mom (who was going thru a divorce) and not to let her see me cry. I always associated crying and showing emotion with weakness, which I have learned is not the case. What helped me to become more "human" as some have put it was when I developed a relationship with a guy (father- figure) that I felt safe and comfortable with. It slowly developed (over years) into a relationship in which I felt safe. I can remember going to him with a gripe one day to vent and he totally turned it around and I ended up just spilling years and years of pent up emotion. I think I cried for at least 4 hours straight and he just sat there and held me. He didn't tell me not to cry or that everything would be OK.

Crying and letting those emotions out was exactly what I needed. It sounds like that is what you need and want too. It will happen when it happens. Maybe try sitting someplace you feel completely safe (to this day I HATE crying in front of anyone) and just allow yourself to feel all the emotions you have been stuffing and really allow yourself to feel them. It is a scary thing at first but eventually you will get it all out.

If things don't come out as emotions right away, try journaling or writing your thoughts and feelings down. Many times I would be journaling and the tears would start flowing. I still have journals with tons of tear-stained pages! And that is a good feeling. Start small, whatever you do and build on that. You will get there.

Good luck!