How to locate find an adopted/ misplaced child if...?

Question

there was no legal adoption???

He is 14 and has been living with his "mom" since he was about 2 or 3. a year or 2 ago she moved to MD and I've lost contact with her.

Is there any way to locate them if all I have are his and her names and the state... Her name is pretty common and I think she may have married since. His name was never changed but I don't know how easy it would be to find info on a child these days.. {honestly as a mom, I'm not sure I want it to be easy to "just find" his info floating out there.}

any suggestions sould be appreciated.

Answer 1

there are many free name and address finders online. You can also find marriage index's online for some states.

here is a link to a few http://adopteerights.net/forum/index.php...

try blackbook online for state to state resources on finding people

Answer 2

K. babe,

you know I know wassup, so I'm just here for the points...

Answer 3

How do you "misplace" a child?  You mean what you did was abandon your child and someone else is keeping him instead of reporting you to Child Welfare for abandonment.   Good luck.

P.S.   If you abandon your child, you are not much of a "mom" anyway.  Sorry.

Answer 4

Hey hun, your question is not very clear. Did you adopt the child informally and then return the child to the biological mom?

Why is his biological mothers name in quotations?

You might get some better answers if you clarify a little bit about what your relationship to the child is.

If the biological mom is abusive and you're concerned about the child's safety, then that is one thing. What exactly is going on in this situation?

Answer 5

I actually don't know of a free way other than sending a note to their last address and seeing if anything comes of it.  Hiring a tech savvy investigator would certainly find him pretty fast as you have the name.  A good investigator can look up the old drivers license and follow it through the system especially since you suspect they moved to MD.  If she got married, she likely married in MD and there will be info as to her new name.

Answer 6

Well  if the woman is married you will need to know both her maiden and married name.  Try putting both names into an online database if you  only know the state she lives in you'll end up having to pay for a service it should be under $50 I belineve I've used ussearch.com and was pleased with their results.  If you want to first do your own searching, you may try running her name through "melissadata.com" the company has  a free look-up service on the website.  Just put in the name and the last known address town/city.  See what that brings up you may have results that match what you are looking for, you may not.  It will then give you a list of other known residences, look for the one that closest matches what yyou are looking for then you can go over to zabasearch.com with the info you get from melissadata.com and see if the woman has a publicly listed # and address, sometimes you only get one or the other.  If you try running that and get no positive results I suggest then usaing an online private detective service that searches public records.  If however this woman lives "off the grid so to speak"  I'm afraid I can't help you.

Good Luck!

let me know how it goes.

Answer 7

Iam not trying to be insensitive or mean.  However, there are some real questions that need to be answered.  

It sounds like they don't want to be found.

If you suspect the child is being abused in some way, report it to the police.  They will find them.

If you just want to locate them to keep in touch, then it makes me wonder why you have waited two years to locate them.

As hard as it may be to hear, the reason she moved may have been for the good of the child.  Maybe it would be best that you let them live their lives.

OK.  Commence with the thumbs down.  I am sorry that I am saying what many other people are probably thinking.

Answer 8

Geez people, if you know how to read, she is NOT the mother and SHE did NOT abandon the child. It sounds like she's an aunt, grandmother, cousin, or the like. Or he.

Are there any other family members who might know their address? Isn't anyone else in the family concerned for the child?

If you are family and your intentions are good and as you say, you could/should have rights to have contact with the child. However, without an actual adoption or guardianship, that is really a bad situation.

Good luck.

Answer 9

send a letter to the last known address. Lots of times it will get to new address. Or look on myspace. Lots of kids that age have themselves listed there.