How to make a 10 yr old child be more conscience about what she eats.?

Question

My boyfriend has a 10 yr old daughter and she approx 30 lbs overweight. She eats non stop and he says nothing about it. Her mother bought her a 2 piece bathing suit which let her gut hang out. How can he talk to her about not eating so much and tell her that the 2 piece isnt flattering w out hurting her feelings.Her weight is getting out of control. I am afraid she is going to get picked on. Thanks

Answer 1

sometimes you need to be hurtful

Answer 2

You not being her mother cannot say anything to her, but you can in fact bring it up with her father.

She is 10, so a two piece that isn't "flattering" is still ok...in a year or two as she develops it will be less socially accepted.

I have an 11 year old sister who has had weight issues, and LOVES to snack.  Your fear shouldn't be of her being picked on, but should be of the potential SERIOUS health risks she could develop.  Extra weight can lead to obesity, heart problems, and Juvenile diabetes.

We were able to help my sister safely slim down without it affecting her self esteem...she was never once told that she needed to lose weight...and while she will never be a twig (its not in her body type), she is A LOT healthier and will stretch

out as she gets taller.

Some tips on what we did:

-Removed ALL Fried snack foods and replaced with Granola and Low Fat nuts.

-Got rid of most soda, and replaced with Iced Tea and Lemon Water

-Changed to healthier cooked meals

-Got her involved in sports/dance

-Limited TV time

-Encouraged outdoor play.

-Had Oatmeal or low fat yogurt for breakfast instead of sugary cereal.

Tell your boyfriend to try these tips, and encourage them.  It not only helped my sister, but it did wonders for how the rest of us felt as well!

Hope This helps!

Answer 3

Why don't you start exercising together. Tell  her that you are all going for a walk, and keep that up daily or a couple times  a week. Encourage her into sports. But do things together so she doesn't feel like she has to do it on her own.

Only have healthy food in the house. She will complain at first, but if you all stick to it, she will get used to it.

I think that if she is comfortable in the two piece, she should wear it. If kids make fun of her, have a one piece handy so she can decide.

Answer 4

~Unfortunately her weight is not your business.  Her Mother or Father needs to address her weight issue and help change her eating habits, not you.

Answer 5

A 10 year old is well aware of how they look to their peers.  I am sure she already knows she is different.  I think you need to look at why she is eating so much, is she trying to comfort herself.  Also what do her parents look like...we learn how to eat from our parents.  Maybe you can talk to her about getting more healthy, don't buy junk food or soda...if they can't eat or drink those things then you shouldn't either.  I know this does not sound fair but you are trying to set an example not just dictate what they should be doing.  The old do as I say not as I do has never worked.  Also get out as a family and exercise, go for a walk or hike, go swimming, ride bikes, or bring her to the gym with you.  Exercise is fun if you make it about fun and not try to make her feel bad about her weight, believe me I am sure she already has low self-esteem and a poor body image.  She probably already wishes she had a one piece bathing suit.

Answer 6

She is 10 years old & still needs guidance.  One, be a healthy role model for her.  Two, remove all temptation out of the house.  Let her know (her father should be apart of this) that there is to be no more snacking in between meals (which you will provide a healthy one).  Should she truly be hungry she is more than welcome to have fresh fruits or vegetables.

Answer 7

WHO CARES ABOUT THE LITTLE LAZY POTATO CHIP EATING FAT A$$

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THE FIRST ANSWERER

Answer 8

I'm sorry about that last comment that is uncalled for, you need some real help which will be difficult to find. my mother and my aunt do extensive research on foods. there are a lot of harmful foods in the grocery store even things that are labled good for you are not. try to not buy a lot of packaged foods, because you don't know what is in them if you have too try trader joes idk if there is one in your area but you can read and identify all of the ingredients on their packages. a lot of pitfalls are sugar(high fructose corn syrup), oils such as soybean, canola, any vegetable oils....i know it is expensive but olive oil is great! stay away from tofu, it is made of soy and most dint know but it is pig food! that is tofu and edimame beans. encourage white meats red meat is harder for the body to digest and no white breads, pasta, rice...etc. high fiber is key to a healthy body. about 20 or more for a child. which is hard but can be found in cereals, crackers, breads, pastas usually that have ground flax seed has to be ground flax seed though. please do some research i can go on all day. hope i helped a little.oh 1 more beans, beans, beans!!!

Answer 9

She will get picked on and that's probably as good a way as any that she'll learn the hard fact that she's too fat.

If you want to circumvent this occurring then there's no easy solution - you WILL hurt her feelings by telling her she's too fat but you have to emphasise that it's better coming from FAMILY than her FRIENDS :). Try to take it from a health angle too - don't say she's ugly, say she should get into shape for her health so she can feel good about herself.

Answer 10

just buy her an even cuter one piece and does her dad want to tell her?? You all can try eating healthy meals during the day and have some nice family excersice time

Answer 11

take her to the doctors. you can't just make her stop eating, if you're hunger you should eat. she could just need to eat a lot, and if she does, just make sure it isn't all junk or whatever. and is she exercising enough? cuz if shes eating a lot and not exercising that can make her gain weight.

Answer 12

He can only buy healthy food and start a "family" diet and get her into a dance or other sports class!

Lead by example!

Answer 13

I think you have a valid concern but it may be that you are over reacting.  Understand that she is only ten and that eventually she will start to "see" herself in the mirror.  Her friends will influence her a lot in a couple of years also.  If you are in a serious relationship with this man.  I mean- living together and practically married, just w/o paperwork..   If you have an influence in his life and/ or hers.  Perhaps you can start cooking the meals.  You can choose healthy menu options.  If the two of you share responsibilities in the home, then start changing everyone's diet.  I recommend a slow transition to make it easier.  If you are eventually going to play the role of step parent, then you have to lead and teach by example.  Show that eating healthy and exercising is okay, and normal.           Beware of crossing the line.  He may be letting her eat so much because that is her coping mechanism.  If you upset the relationship they have, or offend him by degrading her, then the relationship between you and him will be over.

Overall I think that you concern shows that the relationship is more serious that not.  Just take it easy and don't push the issue to fast.  Slow and steady wins the race.

Answer 14

She is not ur child so why are u worring about her. Her weight is her mother and farthers problem.

Answer 15

instead of telling her that she is fat. maybe they should involve her in more sports, or outdoor activities. it'll help her burn some fat=] good luck!

Answer 16

There are many reasons kids eat too much. The main reason is depression. Try talking to her and make sure everything is OK. If she's eating constantly, it may be that she's bored, and eating fills up time. Try getting her involved in different activities, this will not just occupy her, it will make her lose weight as well. Try explaining to her the health problems that are caused by over eating, difficult to exercise, and not just P.E. lessons, but running around with friends. Etc. Buy healthy food, and ask her to help you make it, and ask her what she wants for dinner, and then involve her in making it. This will give her a positive attitude about healthy food. Tell her that if she loses a certain amount of weight, you will give her a gift. It might be better to be blunt about the bathing suit.  Maybe you should find pictures of morbidly obese people online, and ask her if that's what she wants, and say that's what people will think she looks like. Scaring kids into doing something isn't the best option, but it does work if everything else fails. Good luck with it, and try not to give in to her crying/having a tantrum etc. Getting her to change may have short term difficulties, but it will pay off in the long run. Keep at it!

Answer 17

Well..

I'm 11.

And I think I can tell you why she's eating more than she should?

1. She's depressed about something.

2. If it's junkfood, and she just eats it because it's good, you have to limit her on that.

3. She's bored.

Main reasons. :/

Answer 18

well it isnt really your buisness but its nice that you care. if you want to let her know let you boyfriend do it. maybe get him to reward her if shes doing something that you want her to? or let her figure it out for herself that her weight is out of control. for example, watch more TV shows on weight like the biggest loser or shows on unhealthy eating habbits.

get your boyfriend to buy her a book on calories and fat so she knows what shes doing to herself.

Answer 19

Obviously you are concerned with her health...right?  Because it did sound as if you are focused on the body image...just pointing it out.

What you could do is set a good example.  Get rid of the junk food and replace it with fresh fruit.  Tell her that you don't like how the family has been eating and it's time to start making smarter choices.  Then ask her to help you come up with a healthy menu.  She'll be involved and feel like it's her decision.

Then, to get her moving around, take family walks, go to the park, play catch, in roll her in dance or gymnastics (her choice), and/or bike rides.

Hope it helped.

Answer 20

How about you talk to her?

Hide all the snacks and keep the fruit in there. It should make her lose weight.

Answer 21

When she comes to see you boyfriend make healthy meals. And make her slow down as she eats and drink a sip of water after every 3 or so bites. Tell her that this way she can savour the food longer.

Don't talk to her directly about the bathing suit but express your feelings about it to your boyfriend so he can express it to the mother so that she can talk with the child about it since it is easier for a mother and daughter to talk about matters like this.

Answer 22

its not ur kid GET A LIFE and ur son is a ASsholeeeee leave her alone **** maybe she likes how she is you *****

Answer 23

tell her shes gonna be fat if she does nt