How to make a 5 yr old stop pinching your boobies?

Question

And punching you in the bottom? He's playfully doing it, but it should be stopped.

Answer 1

im tring to get my one year old to stop biting my rack, i would say time outs after telling him no, would catch on after a few times.

Answer 2

If it is painful or annoying then IT IS NOT PLAYFUL...5 year olds are old enough to understand when they are hurting you and are old enough to know not to do it.  You are in this loop that must be stopped before it spreads to others being touched against their will in this manner.  If you are calling it playful then he might be picking up that this is a game.  

Stern looks, stern words, time outs, lost privileges, hugs and being picked up with his back to you only, etc.  Reward with smiles and words when he gets near you without the unwelcomed touches.  Show him the ways that are okay to touch and talk about them when getting ready in the morning so he has it fresh on his mind.  

Answer 3

The problem with these questions at times is that it's impossible to give all of the information that each possible advice giver would like, so we end up not knowing if you've tried what we are going to suggest...but here's my thought:

An interest in bodies and especially in what's different from his and the same as his is normal at this age...and sometimes the way they explore that is through play - like playing doctor and...touching or looking at yours since you're his 'safe person' that he can explore with...but it opens a great opportunity for lessons about the body, too!

I wouldn't just punish him right away like some suggested here.  I'm NOT anti-punishment at all...I even use swats or spankings at times (as a last resort)...but I'm surprised at how quickly some jumped to that solution.  Punishment, to me, is something you build UP to, not START with for things that aren't an immediate danger or that they don't understand yet.  I'm big on casual, basic communication, first and then moving on to sternness and THEN moving up to the punishment phase.  So...

Have you given him the "private parts" talk?  My daughter is 4 and I have told her that her bottom, her "coochie" and her boobies are HER private parts...and that people shouldn't see them and that only her daddy, her mommy, her grandma and her doctor should touch them, that no one else should touch them.  I stressed that anything that has underwear on it was really private and that's why we wear "two clothes" on them...clothes AND underwear.

This was my molesting talk so I went on to tell her that if someone touches them she should tell me...and that if they tell her not to tell then that means that she SHOULD tell, even if she's scared or they threaten her, etc.  

But this applies to your question because I also told her that since everybody has private parts that she shouldn't touch other people's privates either.  If you haven't talked to your son about 'privates' maybe that would help?  Also, you could tell him (not in a 'you're in trouble' way but still in a serious way) that you have privates too and that they're yours and that he shouldn't touch them either.  End by specifically asking him not to do that any more.

Then watch him...try to catch him 'going for them'...and grab his hand before he makes contact, if possible, and just sternly look at him and say, "Honey, do you remember Mommy told you those are her privates?  Don't play with them, I don't like that!"  If he does it a 2nd time, say that again but then add that he'll have to go to time out if he doesn't listen to your words...  Then if he tries again, it's time for time out.

This teaches him about privates but also about his and other people's boundaries and having respect for people's bodies and wishes and also to listen to your words.

Good luck to you...!

Answer 4

He is 5, tell him "no don't do that!!!" and if it continues give him a time out or something.

Answer 5

how about you teach him the word "NO" I know in this day and age, it's pretty difficult to teach your children the difference of RIGHT AND WRONG.... you might even try a spanking... OH NO, NOT A SPANKING......

Answer 6

ha ha h ahaha

Answer 7

Pretend that your child ALWAYS listens to you & that you are happy about it. When he is within earshot,tell over the phone (to no one at the other end of it) that he is such a lovely kid, who listened as soon as he understood that you don't like to be touched at those places. Make sure he is listening & don't let him feel that you know it. Just go on to say "Your kid needs to learn it from my angel. I adore him because he does only nice things". Hang the phone and walk away.

Praise works with kids, too.

Answer 8

Well, i guess that you just have to give him time. Tell him 'No, don't do it.' But also, make sure that you give him an explaination cos if you don't, he might find it mysterious and starts pinchin your neighbours boobies! That ain't cool! :)

Answer 9

Yes, 5 is too old to be doing that.  Kids that age should not be touching people that way. He's a big kid now and is probably in school (or will be soon), so he needs to understand that bid kids don't do that.  If he continues, it is a discipline issue.  Give him a big consequence, what that might be in your house.  My son did the same at age 4 and time outs worked for him.

Answer 10

be sturn and tell him that you dont touch that part /parts of the body on anyone!

Answer 11

tell him if he does it again you will give him a d**n good smack

Answer 12

I think he/she likes the reactions he gets from pinching b***s and punching bottoms. I would try to show no reaction if the 5 year old does that. Maybe then it would stop.

Answer 13

Write a social story about what to do with his hands when he wants to touch mommy affectionately. Ex. Tommy  hugs mommy (put a picture next to the words). Tell him how it makes you feel. Do you let others do it to you? Like boyfriend or husband? End that because kids learn by example. Reward him for good touches and he'll get it. If that doesn't work, try taking things away for a day (Nintendo DS, bike, anything he loves) Give it back to him the next day but remind him what will happen if he is not appropriate. Good luck.