How to make someone leave your house!!!! HELP

Question

There is a woman who comes twice a week to drop off a meal for my family because my mother just had surgery. She drives an hour out of her way to drop off the meal. When she arrives, she makes an excuse to come in like to carry in the food or use the restroom or something and when she's done she'll sit on our couch and start talking. omg you can't get her to stop. ADHD is running through her veins. she is here on average for 45 minutes and thats on a good day. we feel really bad because she takes a lot of time to do this and to food is expensive but her mouth won't stop. and the conversation is like she's on ACID! how do we get this person to leave without being rude? Serious answers please...

Answer 1

Tell her you are going out and just take the food at the door . Don't let her in.  

Answer 2

say you have something busy to do

no no no wait tell her:

start talking more than she does

talk over her words

also if she says can i use yuor bathroom say it going under constuction and put a sing on the door that says broken and make sure no 1 enters it or she'll notice

Answer 3

make up a reason to leave the house ...

tell her you have errands to do .. or that you have some kind of doctors appt?

Answer 4

say you have an appointment with your girlfriend or just tell her the truth and be honest .. or neglect her ..

that way she will understand

Answer 5

You can say your mom is too weak for an extended visit.  Just say thanks, mom really appreciates it, but the visits are just too much for her right now.  Or you could just start cooking the meals yourself and tell her that she doesn't need to come by, you feel bad with gas being so expensive right now.

Answer 6

Listen to her. She is filled with wisdom and advice you truly need. Nothing ever happens in life without it being exactly what we need to move foreward.

I suggest you record her words, have them typed, and study them carefully.

If truly valuable, offer the transcripts on eBay.

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Answer 7

Unless you really have something going on that you need her gone for - I would just bite the bullet for now.  

She is really doing a nice thing for your family and even though it may drive you nuts to listen to her, she may need you right now as much or more than you need her help.  It sounds to me like she needs to talk or get outside of herself, and right now you can be of service to her by letting her spend 45 minutes of your 24 hour day on your couch.

I hope you know what I mean!

Good Luck and best wishes to your mom!!

Answer 8

You say she goes out of her way to do it, so it sounds like she's doing you a favor. She sounds lonely, like she wants someone to talk to. I'd let her talk for 15 or 20 minutes, and then tell her that you are really busy and don't have time to talk. Firm and friendly should do the trick. Try working the graveyard shift in a nursing home with a non-stop talker who won't leave your side. That really made me insane.  

Answer 9

who is being rude here? this lady spends her money to buy and prepare dinner for you and your family.  She then spends her money in gas, (not to mention her time) to drive an hour and a half ~both ways~ to hand deliver this to you!!  How hard is it for you to give her 30 minutes of your time????  If that is asking to much of you, simply request that her kind gestures are  no longer needed......and eat a bologna sandwich

Answer 10

tell her that it is a really bad time and have your mom say that she doesn't feel good. don't put a note on the door so she will think that you're not home. turn the television up loud when she's over and tell her to be a little bit quietier when she's over.  cut her off when she's taalking but don't be so cruel.  

Answer 11

Seriously I have had this problem.  I just don't answer the door.  If it takes 20 times I won't answer.

Answer 12

call the cops

Answer 13

Well you can always say , that you don't mean to be rude, but you been busy all day with your mother helping around the house and you're gunna go lay down.

Answer 14

Seriously, I think you are ungrateful.  You can not accept this woman's charity and then complain about the packaging.  You either have to tell her "Thank you for everything you have done, but we are fine now" or be gracious and sit down and talk to her for an hour.  It does not hurt you, and it sounds like she is lonely.  It's called social responsibility.  Stop thinking about how bothersome it is to you, and start thinking about maybe your conversation is an excellent payment for the meals she provides.

Answer 15

The only thing you can do is call her and tell her that you are all set with the meals and that YOU will be cooking from now on.  Thank her very much for her kindness and that you will contact her if you think it's getting too much for you.

I hope you're ready to put your energy where your impatience is.

Answer 16

hmm..

you can try saying that you wont be in your house for a week?

gosh i have no clue..

try telling her there's no point in wasting all that gas to get to your house =\

Answer 17

If you feel that way, you should not accept the food because you are not humble enough. Chances are she does not want to be rude and just give you the meal and leave right away. Cook yourself and don't accept the meals because it does not sound like you deserve it.She drives a whole hour out of her way and she probably just needs a break from driving.  

Answer 18

"I'm sorry, but I have alot of work to be done. But thanks so much for stopping by!! NOW LEAVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

You can leave out the last part if you like ;-)

Good luck!

Answer 19

I guess my question is, no one at home can make a meal?

Answer 20

LOL sorry. Tell her your mother is on a strict medical diet with specific foods that only you have. That way she cant make any old thing and bring it... other than that im not sure...

Answer 21

Well show a little gratitude she is coming an hour out of her way to just to deliver your moms special food. Why don't you or someone in your family go out of your way and get your moms special food? That way you won't have to put her with her ramblings.

Why not just put up with her for 30 minutes. Then tell her that you've got to run. Thank her for everything and rush her out the door. Its the least you can do for this lonely woman.  

Answer 22

If she shows up around the same time whenever she comes then you could always claim your mother needs to rest because she hasn't been getting much sleep or because she still isn't back to normal after the surgery. You could also just tell her that while you appreciate everything she has done for you, you can't spend a lot of time entertaining her because there are other things you have to do.    

Answer 23

Tell her you need to get going, you're on your way out or you're expecting some company.

Maybe next time meet her outside and tell her the house is a mess and you're embarrassed to have her in, or meet her outside and tell her someone in the house is very sick something like that. or don't answer the door, put a note on it saying "sorry we we're not home"  

Answer 24

You either ask her to stop bringing the food.  Or, you tell her that we are "very tired" and not up to having company, see you next week, Okay?  Or, maybe, Mom's doctor says she can't have anyone over, take the food, say thanks, shut the door, and lock it.

If you don't do or say something, you are stuck with the situation for a while.

Answer 25

Don't answer the door.

Answer 26

That sounds very ungrateful & there would be no way of getting around being rude.  Anyone who visits your house, unless they are dangerous or destructive, should receive no less than hospitality.  Someone who is doing a good thing for your family, should be treated exceptionally.  

She sat in the car bringing over a meal, she probably spent an hour on, so we are talking 3 hours out of her life to help out your mom, and you are complaining about 45 min.& saying mean things about her.  I really can't believe it.  If you really want her to stop, start making the meals yourself, see how much time you spend on that.