How to make the most out of life?

Question

I am a person who doesnt have much, I have no friends,no life meaning I dont really go anywhere. I am like 20 pounds over weight. I am in a way afriad of women, because of what happened to me in highschool. I have never had a girl friend, my last best friend has been out of my life for about 3 years. Is that god purpose for me to be lone forever? How would I make the most out of a life like this?

Answer 1

ill hang out wit u bro hahaa seriously hit me up

im in a similar situation or will b in bout a month

Answer 2

Work out. its a good stress reliever, and id say travel. go to Italy or Rome or something and strike up a conversation with someone who's traveling with you. just do what ever you want (not something that would get you sent to jail of course). its not that hard once you get the hang of it.

Answer 3

Make a list of things you want to do before a certain birthday. For example, list thirty things you want to do before you turn thirty. Your list can be made up of places to visit, people to meet or befriend, skills to acquire, or just fun things to do. This way, you have some goals to aim at, and you can keep track of what you have done and what you still want to do.

Make a to-do list or a schedule every day! Don't just lay around all day without painting the fence, visiting Aunt Mary Ann, or finally taking that walk to the park. Have fun!

Remember "Carpe Diem" or "seize the day." - Live life in the moment. The only thing that is assured in life is this moment and death. So cherish every moment of life and make it worthwhile.

Try making life better for the less fortunate people in the world. They could be anyone, from an orphan in Africa to a pauper in Calcutta. Some dollars less in your account will not make a significant difference to you but will make an impact on someone's life. These are the deeds that make you happy in reality, knowing that you have made a difference.

Be comfortable with yourself. Love and accept yourself, even if others don't. Know who you are. You will naturally become an outgoing person if you can do this. Also, have an internal locus of control (an internal locus of control implies the belief that one is largely in control of the things that happen to her/him), meaning be who you are and stay true no matter the situation. Be strong and continue to grow your entire life.

Accept other people, even if they're different. Really different. You don't have to like everyone, just show acceptence and tolerance and you'll be cool with everyone (extremely important in connections later on). Also understand not everyone has your world view, thinks like you, or has the same values. But one thing everyone does want is to be treated kindly. You can't judge anyone else because you don't know what that person has been through and how it's affected them. Not everyone reacts to the same situations the same way. Some have more tolerance than others. Judging anyone is purely to organize your own little world into making a little more sense.

Find a purpose or meaning to your life. Whether that be a cause to help the world, religion, or just any kind of worthwhile goal (world domination only if you'll treat the world right).

Accept death. Yes, it can be scary. But it's going to happen, one day you will die. Let it echo through you, and you can begin to appreciate life. Trust you will be okay. Trust it or you'll go crazy.Live your life with the motto " If I die now I die happy ." Wouldn't it be nice if supposedly you would die now to know that many people would attend your funeral because you've been a great person ?

Stop caring what other people think about you. If you've done the previous step, then this one should be easy. Just apply the faith and trust in the fact that you will die someday, to you, and the fact that you were meant to be yourself no matter what other people say.

Keep a diary or journal. It doesn't have to be fancy, or wordy, or confessional. Just make sure that you're recording information about your accomplishments. Even an ordinary day spent in a good mood is a kind of accomplishment. Whenever you feel as though your life is worthless, fraudulent, or otherwise rotten, refer to this diary as a much-needed reminder of happier times. More will come!

Live each day as if it's your last! There's no day but today to do what you want.

In this idealistic approach, it is also necessary to balance it with reality. Life is a balancing act, it requires constant effort

Answer 4

You need some self reflection. Nobodys going to see what a great person you are until YOU see it.  Nobodys going to believe in you until YOU believe in yourself and know what your capeable of. You just have to push yourself and realize its not your fault, there's nothing wrong with you, you just have to start loving yourself before you can enjoy life. You only have one life, one soul, one body, make the most out of it, things can always be worse, all you have to do is pick yourself up and not look at the negative. Leave the negative in the past where it belongs. Nobody's going to make your life better or worse unless you let them, you have to pick your own destiny. Hope this helped? I trust that your a good person with good intentions (= goodluck!