How to make up to someone you cheated on

Question

I was going out with someone on off for the last four years. He was very controlling and mentally abusive sometimes physical like pushing me around but i love him deeply and hoped and hoped he would change, he constantly left me when I did not do what he wanted but I still love him. Last night I got completly drunk and I know its no excuse and I dont even remember it but I kissed someone in the pub in front of him.. I am deeply ashamed and desperatly want to try and make this up to him. I hate myself for doing it and he said i am dead to him now and to kill myself and do the world a favour. I know its the anger talking but what can i do to show him how sorry I am?

Answer 1

Don't.. You said the relationship has been off and on for four years. It's a doomed relationship so just move on and find someone that you are more compatible with.  

Answer 2

ive been in this place before.

alright first of all its totally not cool he would hit or push you.

why would you want to hurt someone you love?

it seems to me he has a lot of things he needs to ficgure out

becuz he seems to be takeing out his pain on you and thats sick and completely wroung.

about the drunk thing yes it wasnt the best idea but you learned from it and if he truely loves you he would forgive your mistake and if he tells you all those awful things you shouldnt put up with that.

even if it means not talking for a awhile.

as long as it takes.

but being with someone who treats you that badly

would be also disrespecting yourself to and bring only pain.

it took me and my boyfriend 2 years and he realized

how awful he treated me..and how that wasnt the real him.

and wow he sure is amazing now.

he realized all of this by me being stroung enough to not be in his life

for a long time.

but during those 2 years, what kept me goind was telling myself that

you can love someone and not be with them.

if you truely love someone.

do whats best.

and only you know the anwser to what feels right.

i hope this helped out.

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Answer 3

move on