How to marry a girl who is 17?

Question

my girlfriend will soon be 17 and i want to marry her asap. i don't know if i will have her parents permission, is there a way around that. a state i could take her to. i'm 18... how do i make that happen i am currently in florida, but since i have a car, i can pretty much go to any state if nescesary

Answer 1

the best thing to do is wait. Give it time. Finish school go to college. Then think about getting married. But if you must check the Internet. I know here in Colorado you have to be 18.

Answer 2

You will have to get consent from the parents, or be residents of a state that allows that sort of thing. I do not know of any. If you ask me, you are looking for trouble. They can  throw you in jail for statutory raping the girl . And even if that does not happen, you will likely cause hate and discontent with the families of you and your friend. Dont do it. Such a young and rushed relationship will be hard enough, but it will be impossible if you cause that sort of animosity before you even marry. You will be much better off, with a better chance at a successful marriage if you first earn the respect of the girls family, by doing the right thing and waiting until the girl is of age and then asking her father for her hand in marriage. Think about  the future, not just the moment.

Answer 3

If she loves you then she won't leave you, so what's the harm in waiting until she is at least 18. =)

Answer 4

wait till shes older and you won't have to go through so many headaches.

Answer 5

Don't act as a fool. every caring parent will not do their daughter's wedding before 18. Wait till she becomes 18.

Answer 6

if you love her now and want to marry her now, you two can wait the year until she is 18.

Answer 7

if your love for each other means anything...wait a few more years to get married, and dont find a way to get married without her parents consent...that will just make a battle into a war....be smart...think about it.

Answer 8

um isent she kinda young

Answer 9

The two of you will change so much over the next couple of years... perhaps you could give her a promise ring. wait untill your at least 20. then you'll be able to marry her without the hassel and hopefully be secure and successful enough to give her the wedding of her dreams and a stable life.

I'm now 22, but when I was 16-17 I was madly in love with a man. but we both ended up likeing different things (he liked raves, i liked small gatherings of friends) so we never wanted to go anywhere togather and drifted apart.

Answer 10

What does it matter if you get married now or in a year or so? If you love her, you'll wait, as a year won't make any difference when you've got your whole lives together.

And pissing off the inlaws is never a good idea.

Answer 11

I'm actually chris hanson with dateline NBC and you're screwed!  can you explain yourself?  Do you want some lemonade?

Answer 12

Wait until she is 18.....shes to young anyway.

Answer 13

Wait until she is 18.  You are trying to undermine her parents' authority, and that is not a good way to start a relationship with your future in-laws.  Parents are in charge until they are 18, then they are free to make their own decisions.  If you tried to undermine my authority with mychildren, I would have you arrested.

Answer 14

unless she's pregnant, you can get engaged and plan the ceremony for her 18 b-day

if she's pregnant, her parents will probably be more sympathetic

Answer 15

dude if your ready go to arizona or colorado theres a whole buncha states check this out

http://www.coolnurse.com/marriage_laws.h...

Answer 16

Because you are 18, if you take her out of the state, you might be at risk for being charged with kidnapping should her parents object to you leaving with her.  The only way you can get married is if she gets herself emancipated through Florida courts and then she will be considered an adult and you can then marry.  The only other way is to have her parents agree to let her marry and they would have to sign the papers.  

What is the rush though?  These are the best times of your lives.  If you love each other, buy her a promise ring and comit your selves to being faithful to each other with the plans to marry some day in the future after you are finished with college.  If you marry, your parents as well as hers are no longer responsible for you financially and how are you going to pay for college or get a good enough job to afford housing or lifes necessities.  Get your life off to a stable, good start then get married.  Your marriage will be so much more successful if you start it off with out having to struggle to make your way.  

On a side note: I am 37 yrs old with 2 kids and have been happily married for 8 years and together a total of 10 yrs.  We both went to college and moved in together after college then later married.  We are in a great position where I am able to stay home with our kids.  Our kids love that I am home with them.  We have such a great marriage.  We both had the opportunity to date other people in out teens and 20's before we settled down so we did not miss out on anything.  Best of luck to you.

Answer 17

you really need to wait....even if you are in love...as a wedding/event planner....i see alot of young weddings that fail either prior to the ceremony or with a few years after....Waiting is your best option....Oh and to answer your question...there is NO state in the US that will allow you to marry anyone under the age of 18 without the parents permission.

Answer 18

omggggggg, awwwwwwwwwwww, give it more time, i want to marry my bf and he wants to marry me too, but, we're not 18 yet, :(, its a sign telling you to wait if she is too young, you should wait til you're both out of college, then you can get good jobs, and support eachother, and it depends how long you've known eachother, if its been less than 1 year, definately wait a little longer to know what you want in life and try to get to know her more, and if you've been together for more than that, still just wait, marriage is a serious thing, and shouldnt be taken so lightly, just remember, blessings come with patience...idk if this helped, but it's certainly good advise