How to meet new friends?

Question

OK...so during an argument this past weekend, my husband told me to find some friends I can blow steam off with...and I agree that I need people close by that I can talk to about things...just the frustrations of work, marriage...and life. However, I have moved around my whole childhood and don't have that one really close best friend. I've had to make new ones my whole life. And my family all lives in Missouri. I now live in Ohio. I am 21 and I work w/ one other individual (my 40 year old boss...who quite honestly is the weirdest person I've ever met). I've worked here for 2 1/2 years while I put myself through college...and I took night/evening classes w/ a ton of middle aged people I had nothing in common with. So, for the last 3 years I've been in Ohio, I haven't made any close girl friends. Just a few I go to lunch with every other month or so. I know I can't rely on my hubby to be my "girlfriend" and understand anything but I don't know where to "find" friends that are my age and understand life. Most girls my age are out in the clubs and that isn't me. I have searched myspace, facebook and even craigslist and I just don't know what to do. How would you suggest meeting people? I spend most of my time working and at home b/c I have a husband and house to take care of...no kids. HELP! I feel so alone now that he's made it a point to make me feel lonely. :(

Answer 1

Joining or doing things that you like is a great step.   communities need people to get involved - see if you can volunteer.  Same with any animal shelters or places like that - you volunteeer, do some good and meet other people.  

If that makes you uncomfortable to do on your own, see if your husband will join some couples things - bowling league, softball, etc.  Even if YOU don't play, you can go with him and meet the other wives.  

Don't automatically dismiss anyone who isn't in your age group though.  People can have much more in common than just an age.    

Answer 2

I'm sure you've heard this before, but it's good advice. Go out and do things. Not like, night life things, no one talks or is looking for friends in those situations. Here are my tips:

Join a workout class. Not just a gym, but a class that you attend every week, it will most likely have the same people and I bet a few times you will end up going for drinks after. Or try an art class, or a sewing class, or a music class, or a learn a second language class, or a book club. Or all of them.

Frequent a small, locally-owned coffee shop. Go there a few times a week. Both Batista's and other people who frequent the shop will get to know you. It works better than a bar because there is light and it's quiet enough to talk.

Throw a dinner party for your husband's friends and their significant others. I know, it's cheap to steal his friends and their mates, but it works.

My best friend did this, but it's not up everyone's alley: Join a church and get really involved. She did have to search long and hard, but she found the right church. Part of what she was looking for was a congregation with a really involved young adults group. Not necissarily a singles group, but for everyone in that age range. They have weekly (and sometimes more often) events and it's free.

It takes time and you do really have to exert yourself and make an effort to be seen and make friends, but it pays off.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Aw.

Does somebody need a hug?

Answer 4

be a friend!

whereever you will go

you will find the similer people!

so pls do not fuss about the place.

forgive people.

they are just like us!

who need love and acceptance!