How to meet new people!?

Question

I got out of a 4 year relationship a few months ago. The man was very abusive (physically, emotionally, and financially) and degrading. I have spent a while, even before the relationship ended, getting help and trying to rebuild my self esteem from the relationship. I am finally feeling better! It's really nice to feel like my life is getting back into order. I have dated one guy since the long relationship and it seemed like it was moving fast and I wasn't that interested, and I ended it. Since then it seems like I just haven't met anyone at all. I mean, I guess sometimes people hit on me, but I don't go to bars or nightclubs or anything, I spend a lot of my time around people I already know. I would like to meet someone new and interesting, but am unsure how. I know that sounds silly, but I'm a pretty, smart girl who is friendly, so why have I not met someone I am even remotely interested in? I'd even like to meet some new friends. I feel like I have outgrown a lot of the people in my life in general! I'm just kind of shy in new surroundings. Also, I have no interest in internet dating/meeting. I tried that once and it was very scary. I want to meet real live new people! Thank you!

Answer 1

This is pretty hard considering you didnt put your age!! lol, well if your in your teen years, maybe going to a "scene" club or some club, maybe go to a coffee hut alot, movie theater with at least one of your friends and just be very open and confident alot. You know jus start fresh with people. btw, i feel very like you except got out of 2 year relationship..

Answer 2

join a social networking network! try myspace or friendster..

my friendster account is: [e-mail]

Answer 3

speed dating, join a club, go to church, hangout at public places like a park or library, maybe get a new or another job?

Answer 4

just let people come to you

if it's meant to be

then they will come to you

think about it =]

Answer 5

hey whats up how are you

a simple smile yo.

Answer 6

yd u stay wit him so long?

Answer 7

go to the gym. join a club (like..recreational club).

get a new job! just ENJOY life. and let people come to you naturally.

of course, there is nothing wrong with meeting people online.

but yeah, definitely join a club. yacht club lol. golf club. yoga class.

SOMETHING.!

Answer 8

Four years  too long in an abusive relationship. You should have walked out long ago. Anyway you did the right thing and I am glad you have rebuilt your self esteem and feel great again. Keep it up you are on the right track. Dont rush into anything just for the sake of having some one. Concentrate on yourself always and your career and fitness. Always remember you are the best no matter what. Men will only come into your life to use and abuse and move on to the next victim. Dont make another mistake. When you find the right one who is kind and compassionate and needs a food friendship that will be ideal.You can join a dance class, jogging in the park, join a sports club, go swimming, well all these place are great to make friends and meet new genuine people. Also church activities, gym class, etc. Cheer up and remember you are on the right track. All the best my dear.

Answer 9

seriously its a LOT scarier trying to meet people in real life --- and how do you get to know them --- i agree pubs/clubs/bars are not good places to meet people interested in conversation and getting to know you ---- if you chose not to use the internet then i cant think of many other places to meet people socially get to know them and find someone that you would like to date ---- for what it is worth try some of the chat rooms --- dont go looking for dates --- look for people that can hold a conversation you never know what my happen --- plus its all under your control --- you dont meet if you dont want to and if you do its your choice where you meet and when ---- best wishes

Answer 10

sorry about your brake up, you sound like nice parson you will be ok,good luck.